I feel for you reluctant, my Dad died last Monday after a relatively short battle. And I suffered all those things you mentioned, the main one being getting what was really happening over the phone.
He mentally checked out months ago so the information we were getting was next to nothing making the stress of not knowing whether to go visit him today, tomorrow or next week or is he even alive draining. Luckily we got to see him 2 days before he died and it was obvious he was going then, so we at least got to say a goodbye
Now we have to deal with a Covid funeral were they’ll be 12 people (as opposed to 100+), his body will already be there, then its a 20 minute service with no wake. We’ll do something in the summer but it won’t be the same
Like CSB says the fact hes getting out and about is a positive sign, my Dad (though he had some complications) didn’t leave the house after Christmas, which in part led to his rapid decline