This is markoulinis wife. This sounds similar to our situation (although perhaps not to the same degree). In my case feelings of frustration towards my OH usually are just projections of feelings of frustration about myself. I am feeling frustrated, angry with myself and my situation and this comes out badly to the ones closest to me. Offers of ‘quick fixes/solutions’ to my problem, like find a new hobby, also infuriate me because they usually mean ‘your attitude causes ME a problem. You need to get a grip asap because I am affected by this negativity and I don’t like it’. In other words, it’s as if you’re saying ‘it’s all about ME!’
Instead of offering ‘solutions’, which she is already aware of herself, my advice would be to preoccupy yourself with understanding why she feels angry/frustrated/ worried. Have many discussions and really listen to her. But not just that, because don’t expect that you will ask once and she will just be happy and willing to spill her most inner and scary thoughts. Really<span style=”font-size: 0.8rem;”> try to understand what’s troubling her. Sometimes even vocalising your worries can be a scary thought because you are also trying to hide them from your own self. So talking about them to someone else is difficult. If and when she will talk to you, just listen and try to empathise and understand. Don’t jump into trying to solve her problems! (See previous point). </span>
Sorry for the essay and i hope this helps
