Both me and my OH are 38, no kids. Lots of reasons, main one is OH depression, lack of drive probably stops the accidents! She can’t come off her meds, doctors worrying they would effect the little ones if such an event would happen. High risk of Post Natal Depression and the effects with the underlying depression could be dangerous.
Are we happy? yes I think so, we have holidays, new bikes when we want. We work fairly separate lives, like today im off OH is working, ships that pass in the sea as it were, would we adapt change our lifes wouldn’t be an issue for me but my OH would really struggle. I’ve recently changed jobs and routine and my OH is a mess with the changes in my work schedules.
Is my OH happy? I can’t answer for her but I do know when we babysit our nieces and nephews she loves it, she is amazingly happy for a few days afterwards, but then life goes on. We talk about it but she can’t give up the meds she has tried a few times and had some pretty nasty episodes.
Its the hardest choice in the world and sometimes I sit here thinking what would life be like. I probably haven’t helped with this topic, sorry.