we’re going through the same decision as you at the moment
me and mrs lanky are looking at quashqai (slow, bad reliability in theory- but good space, nice drive), astra estate (had one before as a work car and loved it), some sort of jap 4×4 and all the usual you listed
I really like the position, space etc of the berlingo type but they really aren’t cool are they!? We’re just about to turn 30, no kids, both get well paid, etc and all our mates are getting nice sporty cars (TT, MX5, Carrera, Z5 etc) before they get to the kids stage and have to give them up. We seem to be skipping this and just getting a family car to cart bikes in!