Basically it’s all mind games with women, it’s all OK though they often say one thing and mean another, which is effectively lying, so you might as well do the same back…
Ultimately though not all women are the same, some posters seem to have very understanding missus’s, my wife is not a practical/pragmatic person (Much like the OP), she will geet very animated if I screw up her plans but think nothing of pissing all over my parade if I want to go out for a ride, the best solution is to plan and let her know what and when I plan to do, f I’m going to be gone for a Day at some point this weekend I make sure I let her know ASAP…
Once you start putting up with this behaviour you are effectively under the thumb.
My girlfriend is very demanding and we have had many arguments about me riding. Same situation applies, she thinks she can do what she wants, but if I want to do something all hell breaks loose.
After some time she seems to have got the message that I need my own time alone, away from her and I am going to take it regardless of how much of a fuss she makes.
Never give in to a woman’s unreasonable behaviour. Ever.