I’ve discovered riding solo this year (decided to enter some events) and its a bit of a revelation, to the point that the social rides can become a bit of a chore if:
a) You are training to a fitness goal
b) You aren’t mentally in a social mood
Its easy to get pi**ed of at all the stop / start / chatting if you arent in the mood or aren’t er, “au fait” with the group.
The best advice (and I’m trying to re-learn this myself) is to relax and chill out and treat the social riding to what it is – a social event. Either that or shoot off first / last from the group so you can ride sections of trail at your own pace. But be careful of making yourself looking “aloof”.
Nothing wrong with what you are doing though, each to thier own…