Strong words Peter! I mostly agree mind:
Not so often I put my mental nursie hat on here these days but:
Not sure I would say ‘selfish’, but it is very easy to underestimate the devistation on friends and to a greater extent family that comes from losing someone to suicide. I have heard many people tell me that their families would recover and be better off without them. It’s simply not true. Currently working with someone who lost a close relative to suicide a couple of months ago, (and to a lesser extent the family) for which this is all too apparent.
It is impossible to quantify misery but a family a bit miserable looking after or just being around someone will in most cases be so much more miserable if/when they kill themself, and on most cases will stay so for so so much longer than if miserable person had died of accident or illness.
It is understood from research that the risk of ‘completing’ suicide (as opposed to thinking about it or taking an overdose, quickly regretting it and seeking treatment) in a person is much much higher if that person has also lost someone close to them or a close-ish relative to suicide recently. The cascade of suicides in Jeffrey Euginedes’ “The Virgin Suicides” is a bit OTT as a story but is one kind of example, if a little far fetched.
So the person contemplating suicide ought to consider the fragility of anyone close to them and the possibility that their death may be a factor (rarely the sole reason, mind) in someone else’s premature death too.
Oh and in response to the OP question, no. Given the job I do, for me it would be like Tony Hawk comtemplating rollerblades.