**** Hell…….Sorry
It doesn't rains but it pours doesn't it???????
We've just buried Dad this afternoon
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Only to be told that my Mum who's in a realy nice care home (since Dad couldn't cope looking after her since this spring because of her Alzheimer's) that she has stopped eating and more impotantly stopping drinking.
Aparently it's one of the last stages of Alzheimer's where the part of her brain dies/turns off the need to eat and drink.
The care home is great but won't fit a feeding tube as they are not a nursing home, we now have the choice to keep her there and let her die within 7 days to 3 months, or risk moving her if we can find somewhere that will take her for constant feeding.
We feel we should leave her where she is as she has no quality of life,she can't comunicate, walk, do anything for herself, she can't even lift her head off her chest to see who's visiting her.
One reason I feel we need to leave her there is because of something she said to me when we visited her Mum in a nearby home when she was at the same stage. Mum told me "make sure you shoot me before I get the that state"
From an Alzheimer's web site
Stage 7 – Late or Severe Dementia and Failure to Thrive. Severely limited intellectual ability. Communicate through short words, cries, mumbles or moans. When speech is lost, also lose ability to ambulate without help. Health declines considerably as body systems begin to shut down, swallowing is impaired, and the brain is no longer able to interpret sensory input. Generally bedridden, increased sleeping, seizures possible. No longer responds to environmental cues and requires total support around the clock for all functions of daily living and care
Unfortunatly for the family there is no stage 8