So I've learnt how to spell some words and I've realised that if it's meant to happen then it will. The situation as it is now is not something which can be sorted out in the next month, so I guess I'm in this for the long term, which is good, and at least it's good that she is coming to me for support rather then going to her boyfriend.
I'll still be on the look out for others but with H I feel safe and content, which is not something I have experienced with anyone else, but that's not to say I won't providing I keep looking. Though it's going to take someone truely amasing to eclipse her.
Thanks for all the advice particulally to the grips, I think I just needed to work through it with an independent (ish) point of view as I can become quite narrow minded and silly at times.
So I have the cowboy boots, ky and horse whip, now all I need is tj, or a guy called dave 🙂