Sorry to hear this. Sounds like there has been a lot going on, people can tend to shut down if they can no longer emotionally handle things, and also take out their anger on one person. Perhaps that is what’s going on.
I think Martinhutch makes some good points – don’t get divorced if this is just a (major) bump in the road; what you’ve been going through is a lot to handle. Also it sounds like your wife likes to keep busy and do lots of things and lockdown is particularly hard for people who like variety. I had a friend like this who ended up changing partners every seven years, until he worked out that he was just bored in his working life; once he found a line of work with more variety, his relationship status finally settled down.

Took a walk around my local town for the first time in ages yesterday.
So many businesses are just shutting up and walking away.
The economic devastation is going to take years to work through. Online and the supermarkets are the main beneficiaries.
Even with a massive vaccine rollout, we are going to be locked down until the spring at least in some form or other, and probably until early summer.
All in all, a rather depressing experience.

Just use flat pedals, my clipping in days are well behind me, if you have joint issues then clipping in is generally a bad idea.

Also if you have a private pension fund, you can invest it in environmentally sustainable companies. I understand it’s been a bumper year for these funds.

We have a local green group – actually affiliated somewhat loosely with the Quakers – it’s been going for years.
Other than that, the best starting place for me was to grow some of my own vegetables in the garden.
The latest David Attenborough book is great btw.

Pubs are shut and I don’t drink at home, so hoping that will cut out some calories, has always been the most direct route for losing weight for me.

Threats to kill which aren’t acted upon.

One woman got a hoover according to mumsnet.

TBH you are probably asking this on the wrong forum….48inch shorts, maybe.

I swear there are women on that website who spend their lives trying to break up peoples’ relationships! “Leave him he’s not worth it”. Bloody heck.
Or maybe they are just divorce lawyers trying to drum up more business??

I’m already glued to a couple of Mumsnet threads on this issue. It’s more riveting than Netflix.
They are slowly building themselves up.
The “leave him he sounds like a d£ckhead” replies have already started…

Checking Mumsnet for the Parallel Conversation…
“AIBU: DH forgot xmas present”

Twenty quid in a christmas card, signed Best Wishes.
Done.

Well we are into prime divorce season.
I expect the divorce lawyers to really clean up this year when you also throw in lockdown.
I’m single but I’ve used the time to review certain quasi-friendships, particularly some people I know down the local pub. God, people are untrustworthy in those places.
Luckily I’m also a loner.

We’ve been distancing ourselves from the mad uncle and his family for nearly 2 years now. The breaking point was when one of the kids repeated his racism to one of her mixed race friends at school (she had no idea what she was doing btw).
I’d had enough of him for years before that but the rest of the family refused to cut the rope. Now they’ve had enough too, so xmas day tends to be a lot better on the whole.
The happiest I’ve ever seen his wife was when he was diagnosed with cancer; unfortunately for her, he’s made a complete recovery.

Well done.
For my money, the rise in depression in anxiety is less to do with individual “faults”, and more to do with the fact we are living in a totally imbalanced way. Perhaps it is a case of the sensitive, creative people picking up on the signs whilst everyone else can just bury their heads in the sands, but they are also unhappy.
We work too hard, for too long, for material gains which don’t really matter. We constantly compare ourselves to others.
I’ve found being in nature, volunteering, and spending time with like-minded, kind people with an interest in spiritual practices helps a great deal.
More recently I’ve struggled with ill health which has restricted by ability to volunteer and ride my bike, and that has been the hardest thing so far.

All I can say is really get this sorted asap. My internet has really affected my job since the pandemic and WFH; had to move in with my dad for a while whilst we waited to get it sorted.

Best example of a positive boat purchase I know of. A friend’s son wanted to learn a trade, so his dad bought a sailaway widebeam boat. He then spent the next year teaching his son various skills (carpentry, plumping, etc) as they fitted out the boat.
The son now lives on the boat and works as a self employed carpenter.
Sailaways are always a cheap option as people often purchase a boat but then walk away or run out of cash to pay the boatbuilder.

Yes as a few posters have said, it makes little financial sense to live on a boat as opposed to relocating somewhere cheaper. It’s just bloody expensive unless you really slum it.
Some people just prefer to live on the waterways; I find them to be a great bunch overall, I have a good friend in his 80s still going strong on his boat with his wife in the midlands. They actually disliked living on land, they are very self sufficient and like being in nature on the water, and the sense of community.
I’ve been on lots of narrowboats but only in the summer, I think winter boating – even in a marina – would be a challenge.

I looked into this a while ago, there used to be a marine mortgage, not sure if it still exists now, maybe the product has been withdrawn, or they require additional guarantee such as a house.
Easier to get a bank loan and buy a cheaper boat.

Bet Theresa May wishes she’d waited a few years now..

I’m not seeing any family at xmas but that’s not advisory or the law as far as I know, I just don’t like them.

I had three vivid dreams last night. Two were really nightmares – about work, a sign of being stressed.
The other was indeed about Bitcoin surging to new highs.

Welcome. It’s really a family on here. A very angry family.

When sorrows come they come not single spies but in battalions.

Such a rough year. My condolances.

My problem is I get bored doing anything after seven years. I was at school for seven years, then uni for seven years, then change career paths every seven years. It means my CV lacks continuity but I think it is just the dark side of having a high learning curve, my mind starts to eat itself when I get bored. I think it means I can sometimes see patterns that other people can’t necessarily see – very good at innovation – but that doesn’t translate well into being a salary man. I also find it hard to work under business hierarchies, but this comes down to assertiveness as much as anything. Now there’s something I wished I learned more about at school!
The grass is always greener but the truth is a lot of highly educated people are deeply unhappy at work too. Lawyers and accountants are worried about being disrupted by the rise of digital; other than Drs, nurses and care home workers I can’t think of any careers that will last undisrupted over the next thirty years.
Maybe a love of learning, a steep learning curve, use of continuous education, and most importantly (for me) the courage to deviate from the norm are what will be the difference between success and failure in the future, rather than how well someone did at school. Who knows.

Depends on lots of factors, does the company have the resources to take legal action? what kind of contract did he sign? does the company have a vindictive streak?
I’d say it would be best just to be honest with both parties and try to come to a middle ground agreement, i.e. move after six weeks.

The closest I’ve ever gotten to spending xmas in a log cabin in the alps was watching Wham’s “Last Christmas” video in front of telly.

I had a friend, he had two siblings and all went to different schools which was very unusual. It turns out his parents had deliberately picked schools which they thought would fit the personality of each child. A lot of school time is just messing around, which suited me, the exams weren’t that difficult and I would always catch up by cramming for a few weeks before. If I had been in a more disciplinarian school then I would have rebelled. I suspect this is the reason behind a lot of expulsions, as well as personal problems at home.
We have to do lots of personality tests at work and apparently they do work, I don’t know if they could be used for kids to help them choose the best secondary school or at least inform their decision. E.g. creative kids tend to do well in friendly inclusive schools.

Not lived there but visited on business a few times. The word that always springs to mind is “Quality”. Everything is done to a ridiculously high standard such as the food.
I think this comes at a social cost however, as Japan is such a conservative culture and there is an obsession with saving face, hierarchy in business meetings, and conformity. The culture of “men herbivores” who don’t leave their houses is very real and my impression is that they are just nonconformists by nature who don’t want to conform to a culture which offers material rewards but takes up all your time and energy.

The thing is doing well academically at school is no longer a guarantee of upward social mobility. Some of the best well off people I know did ok at school but then found a passion in life, one set up a record studio, another got into property development. There are so many well qualified accountants and lawyers who are just doing it to retain status and money, but are pretty depressed deep down.
That’s why I support education systems which put less emphasis on grades and exams and more on experiences, like the Duke of Edinburgh awards. I discovered perhaps too late in life that I loved mountains and rock climbing, but I didn’t start until my late 20s. If I’d had the chance to try as a teenager it could have opened up a new world for me. We are all a bunch of battery chickens these days, being examined constantly at school, then performance managed at work. Target culture is frankly crap.

I know someone who had it on both hands a couple of years back. Bandaged up for a while but he said he was glad he had it done overall.
Although it is often hereditary in most cases, I’m fairly sure his problems were the result of alcohol and smoking for a long time. He’s now got terminal cancer so I’m told.

I initially went to a secondary school that I hated with a passion. I became depressed, ran away from home, then changed to a new school after a few months of what I can only describe as darkness. Then it was like night vs day. The new school was just a lot kinder in general, and it was in a modern building, whereas the previous one was dark with tiny windows and a strong emphasis on discipline.
I don’t know what would have happened to me otherwise. I stayed on for sixth form and did well academically at the new place. But I think it really comes down to feeling at home somewhere. My father refused to see there was a problem – he is naturally avoidant – and it wasn’t until I said I’m not going back that things improved. Ironic now as all he does is complain about going to the wrong school himself and feeling he has underachieved in life because of it.

As above go for a generic content management system. If you really can’t be bothered and just want it to look very professional, then you could hire a developer off a site like People Per Hour to do it for you.
I have clients turning over £2million a year and they’ve never employed a web developer, just used platforms like Shopify.
Regarding social media this is often best done in-house – you can leverage your authenticity as an owner-managed business; so a good idea to go on a training course. But don’t go overboard with too many platforms, stick to one or two and do it well.
The number 1 rule of websites is that you can have the best website in the world but if no one comes to it you make nothing, so think about how you can generate traffic to the site. This is the wild west of the internet – a lot of cowboys will say they can get you on the front page of google for so much cash.

Yes people are different. My grandfather served throughout WW2 and was second in line at the DDay landings. I didn’t really know him but I’ve been told he wasn’t at all closed-minded, however his wife was. My dad thinks my grandfather was intelligent and their marriage was a mismatch from day 1.
My parents are quite similar however, my dad is open-minded but my mother has got worse with age. The word I would use to describe it is “surly”. There is always a perceived injustice going on somewhere which they won’t let go of. I recently fell for a woman but then I reflected on her character, and thought it would be a miserable relationship over the longer term, so didn’t pursue it any further. My biggest regret is that I didn’t pursue a relationship with someone at uni as she was from a higher social class, she is now a senior lecturer at a top university and would have been just right for me. Oh well, live and learn.
I think it comes down to one’s attitude to change, most people naturally fear it, whereas some people – who tend to be more intelligent – see that is it an inevitable part of life and you may as well roll with it and adapt. Otherwise the only guarantee is that you will have a boring life.

I went to a secondary school on a large council estate in the 90s.
I remember doing my GCSE exams, and focusing quite hard as I wanted a future and to get out.
At the end of one exam, one of the boys in the year, who was sat infront of me, and hadn’t done a day’s work in his life, produced the fruits of his labours. He’d created on the back of his unfilled in exam paper a Union Jack.
Since then, I’ve been to uni, travelled abroad, had an Italian girlfriend and lived in Italy. All these things made my life richer. I worked hard, and rightly it paid off. Now I feel that my country has been taken from me by the kid with the Union Jack on his exam paper. There is no point working hard here, it is best to start a new life abroad.

It would look like my uncle’s house.
It hasn’t really been updated since the 70s. The only regular change is the TV, which now takes up half the living room.
They don’t go on holiday in general, rarely would they go abroad.
Food is sliced ham, grated cheese, white bread, and pickled onions.
He is retired now and has become more closed-minded and hateful with more spare time on his hands. I’ve avoided the house for the last four years, but now England is becoming a bigger version of his house, I’m thinking of finally getting my Irish passport via my mum’s family and moving to Croatia.
The funny thing is, I didn’t realise how “out there” they were until I went to university and met people who weren’t so closed minded. The truth is the reason they are closed minded is because deep down they are fearful people – they fear change, so have created a cocoon where the outside world cannot harm them.

I use these updates and especially the photos to continue an incredibly boring and painful physiotherapy programme to rebuild my knee after a big operation so I can one day ride the Spanish trails like many moons ago.

I’ve commissioned one for a place, I’m going to be interested to see if it picks up on the fact a new housing development is being built nearby…something I found out by doing some googling.

Yes a huge scam where I am. Switched from Sky to BT and it’s even worse. May check out vodafone next.