gravitysucks
I just want to say that I feel for you and I know what you’re going through because I’ve been there, and I’m afraid in my case things didn’t end well.
I’m also going to say that I agree that midlife’s post is harsh but fair – but it doesn’t mean that it applies to your marriage
In my case it was pretty obvious there was other stuff going on – I didn;t need a keylogger to tell me, and if you know your wife I expect you don’t either
Poking around and being suspicious just makes you feel awful – and ultimately it won’t change anything. Best thing to do is try and get her to councelling with you
I didn’t manage it – it felt at the time like we were in a car together, but she was in the driving seat – and had taken her hands off the wheel and was just waiting for the car to crash. I was trying my best to keep the car on the road but couldn’t
As you mention above though 800 pounds is a drop in the ocean compared to the cost of separation (financial and emotional), so don’t let that be the reason not to go. I think relate do let you opt to do it for free as well.
Another point – it can take a while to get seen/ get a slot – so don’t wait. Call them now and get booked in.