Expatscot – its an impossible situation. My wife gaslighted me in front of our councillor this week, then when the councillor sided with my recollection of what she said, she still denied she said it. Gaslighting is such a simple technique for those that way inclined, but you lose your sense of reality, your sense of self believe, and ultimately, yourself.
I dont think its about having answers, however a framework to understand the behaviour helps. I was exposed to a psychopathic relationship a few years back, so i am accustomed to projecting, gaslighting, walking on eggshells, Jekyll and hyde, mask on/off – and i believe this has thickened my skin and allows me to cope better with my current situation.
Still however i am going to the doctors on Monday, i want to explore further techniques to help me cope and the doctors advice on how to approach wife with exploring HRT. At the minute i resent my wife, id be much happier if i could walk away, but our young twins will keep us together, for their sake.