First time my partner and I rode together, it ended in tears. We got lost, she was unfit and couldn’t climb and she had a crap hire bike. Culminated in her slogging up a climb, having a tanty and hurling the bike down the hill. Still made her go and pick it up and we laugh about it today.
First thing we did when we got back, she bought a little single speed to commute to work. Built up some fitness and then bought a nice Whippet on the C2W topped up with some borrowed cash from me. We then rode a few trail centres. I won’t lie, I was hoping she would get bored of both bikes and I could add them to my collection.
Fast forward a few years, she now has as many bikes as me. She gets out on the road mostly, but enjoys MTB a lot. The turning point for her was a skills course. Women need to feel more in control according to the coach. I won’t disagree with him on that one.
In all this time I have done all what people advice you not to do:
– Ride off and leave her all alone after a tantrum? Check.
– Buy a bike hoping she will not like it and I will get it? Check.
– Make her use my cast offs? Check.
– Cajole her into riding clipless when she was probably not ready and make her fall off? Check.
– Laugh when she’s fallen off? Check.
The one thing in my favour is the woman’s sheer bloody-mindedness. If your missus is similar, then you’ll be fine. I’ve also never let her use anything I’d not be comfortable using.