Assuming that I do stay in Edinburgh what are my options for maximising contact with the kids?
I was “one of the kids” in a divorce which sounds very similar to what you’ve described. Swallow what pride you have, talk to your ex, be as reasonable as possible. Ask to see the kids, don’t try poisonng but talk to them, it’s harder for them than it is for you, you at least understand what’s going on. The only way to stop the poisonong will be to stay in regular touch with the kids – that’s not going to happen if you’re on Lewis.
It’ll be hard, whatever happens, I hope it pans out for ypou