Someone up thread asked for a female perspective.
I wasn’t sure about kids, lacked a maternal instinct but we got to a point where all the holidays, mountain climbed, weekends biking, meals out and fine wines etc. got a bit same-y.
My son was born when I was just shy of 42. For the first few months I went entirely through the motions of keeping him alive because that is what you do. Really didn’t enjoy the early months- it was brutal and I didn’t have that immediate adoration you are supposed to get. I was so relieved when I met some other mums (not many) who felt the same way.
At about 5 months the love hit me like a tsunami. And it has got better. He is truly the best thing that has ever happened to me. And turns out I am really good at being a mum (which I didn’t expect) – whilst holding down a full time job. And we still have holidays, climb mountains, spend weekends biking, have meals out but now skip the wine as you never get a lie in.