dont know why
1) huge levels of stress at her work last 9 months
2) i have been ill for 12 months
3) trying for a kid for 18 months
Mate – those are 3 VERY big stresses! Not many people would get through 9 months to a year of that sort of stuff and not be affected by it in some way.
but other than that she just dont like me any more and wants a divorce, now right away no councelling no trial seperation, divorce now right now
OK that does sound pretty terminal, but if the two of you have a bit of space each and chill out a bit this might change?
really unexpected thought we has happy all the people i tell nearly collapse as they thought we had a good marriage
When my sister left her husband after 20 years I (and the rest of my family) were totally stunned. No one knew there was anything wrong, but she was deeply unhappy.
If this really is just "meant to be", then there's lots of good advice listed in the posts above here and when you get down and out you're never gonna be alone – unless you choose to be.
Good luck dude.