you want to do the right thing but it sounds like your SO is more interested in looking like (and showing that) she is doing the expensive thing.
Don’t get me wrong, I know I paint her as a bit of a monster, but it’s in jest really. I know she’d at least pretend to be happy with whatever I did, but I also know that she wants a bit of a fairy tale.
giving someone a ring that is going spare because your mum got divorced seems a bit unromantic.
that’s exactly the problem. I’m not sure if she’d see it as a cheap cop-out or if (like in Spiderman) it’s actually go down quite well.
She’s not against vintage rings per se as her mum got her a nice vintage ring for her 21st birthday which she loves. I’m just not sure if this particular vintage ring, which I got for free, would be right and whether she’d love the fact that I want her to have an antique ring that’s important to my family or whether she’d be put off by the more recent divorce related history.