I feel for you all
My MiL just gone to a care home about 6 weeks ago. An agonising decision but the reality is we should have done it a while back. She was on 4 visits a day but she has been falling and could still be on the floor all night, which is what hospitalised and ended up with her in 24 hour care. She is now safe, well feed, clean and dressed and when she falls there is someone to help straight away
Got it all to face again with my parents, 95 & 93 they still live independently but are really struggling and living in worse conditions than I’d like
There’s no dignity in old age and nothing to recommend it apart from the fact it’s better than the alternative