You have to lose the ex military mentality as well, you’re out now, they don’t own you 24 hours a day. I’m ex RAF and my current job is mostly ex mil types, including the management. They’re still in the mob mentality wise, expecting more with less but as a civvies we don’t play that game any more. I had a senior colleague say to me once “This department cannot fail” which is all well and good but it’s not him running around making sure that it doesn’t.