Been on both sides of this a fair few times.
When best man organizing – I had a few people ducking out last minute, questioning the cost of some ferret racing in rural Ireland (!!). Come on lads we get a free pint of Guinness after!! And those who despite answering the usual round robin emails, drop silent when you send anything stag related.
Flip side, when we had just moved house, with zilch disposable income, no holiday for a couple of years, I had a request for a £450 all in trip to Scotland. Felt it wasn’t fair on the other half..
Turns out it was at Drummuir Castle, Diagios home in speyside, all the rare malt you could drink all weekend. I shouldn’t have moaned and I certainly got my money’s worth :-). Not open to the public, but last week they opened a few nights out. £1500 for two days!!