badnewz Difficult and horrible for her, but would you really rather they stayed together in a marriage which fundementally wasn’t working, developing years of bitterness and loathing. Perhaps she now be able will meet someone more worthy of her? Marriage is a mutual endeavour, not a sentence. Surely?
It’s a tough one mate. There were clearly problems in the marriage, so we weren’t surprised it ended. But I have a nagging feeling that if marriage was taken more seriously, and harder to get out of, he wouldn’t have acted the way he did, in my opinion getting away scot free (he pays child maintenance, but has since had another kid).
I suppose my issue is what a vulnerable position the whole thing put her and my family in, as she couldn’t afford the house on her own (I offered to step in but she didn’t want that). She now rents nearby, and we are looking at extending our place so she and her kids have the option of moving in at some point. This is the saving fact of the situation, we have our own place, no mortgage, so the option is always there.
Sorry to derail the thread a bit, the situation has been getting to me recently and felt the need to write about it.