@senor j I’ve just been given my own office, they call it the cell 😂 I’ve been given more autonomy along with it, basically my boss has realised I surpass their knowledge and my productivity has doubled without their assistance.

I might even try asking for a raise again, the last time I was offered a demotion 😂

@Northwind Although it’s not juxtaposing attractiveness to sell a product or lifestyle, it is using it to promote an idea; like the sun has page 3 girls to get you to buy their shit narrative.

How does it play into insecurities? It holds up one body type/size (slim and fit) as being attractive. It also reinforces the idea that you’re only worth looking at and protecting if you’re attractive.

I dunno, I’m not that insecure in my appearance I know I’m ugly as sin, so I’ve been told fairly frequently 😂

That’s nothing to do with Travellers culture, how do you explain the middle class lads in Magaluf? They do exactly the same behaviour as described by the OP.

Being a dick is universal, there’s one common denominator

@easily, I wasn’t aware that they’d also used men but the same applies as it also affects men’s mental health and we are also seeing a rise in men with eating disorders and body dismorphia. I don’t think the ad promotes the message intended, as cookeaa explained. I’m autistic and the ad’s a bit cryptic, I wouldn’t have made the link between the semi naked body + shit script = wear a helmet. Also, if you’re moving past the ad are you really going to read the script or get the message? It’s not what my eyes were drawn to first

Crass are a good call, I still hear talk of the influence that they had.

This is Pinch and Riko Dan

Leave a n**** breathing, **** up, wheezing
Till you on the floor with your headtop leaking
Face all bruised up, throat cut, bleeding
Attila list, to me, that’s all pleasing
I’m seething

@senor j, @Kuco and @houns; my score on ropers test is 195, when I was formally assessed the psychiatrist said that my score was unusually high. If you’re experiencing difficulties with any aspect of your life it may be worth seeking a formal diagnosis as you might get access to certain services and support, some autistic people are entitled to PIP. However, I will add caution as there’s a lot of misperceptions of autism and you could receive detrimental treatment from friends, family and employers.

@senor j, wow! It’s interesting that on average asc women score higher than asc men in ropers “new” test

https://photos.app.goo.gl/yuM96wAs4cJSo5C77

Over and over re-enforcing the view that women are for looking at, well until they’re not sufficiently attractive. Objectification deeply embedded in our culture. So deeply embedded that the idea that it’s even there isn’t taken seriously.

More women than ever are suffering from eating disorders and depression, with over 80% expressing insecurities relating to body image and gender expectations. It  appeals to and saves the basic boys brains whilst destroying womens, it’s a win win for capitalism

You think it’s only aimed at men?

Nah, it plays on most womens insecurities. Though it’s encouraging me to ride topless rather than add more

TBH, it just makes men look basic. I’m not sure a dick pic would encourage me to wear one, telling me you’ll not ride with me ’cause you don’t want to clean up the mess if I come a cropper might tho

If it hadn’t of been for personal experience I’d have agreed that religion is the root of intolerance, but bigotry prevails across class, creed and religion. Several kids have moved from the middle class village secular state school due to overt and institutional discrimination, one because they are gender fluid and the kids and teachers were unaccepting, I moved mine to a Catholic school due to racism.

I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the diversity and inclusion of others at the RC school, my kid’s best friend is Muslim and they have kids from 9 different countries in their class. My kids have learned a lot more about different beliefs and acceptance than they ever would have at the secular school.

In short, being an eijit is universal no matter how you attempt to justify it.

@trumpton I could feel worse?! I’m not sure that’s possible, I have suicidal thoughts daily. It surprises me that the greater need you have  the less support you receive. I can understand it though, I’d not wish to be the medic tasked with a patient beyond my expertise and the implications that may have.

I have long accepted that is not going to change and make the best of the traits I do have in areas that others struggle

I find it hard to accept that it won’t change, I don’t wish to live with the loneliness of it. It sounds pathetic but social media is the only socialising that I do at the moment, most of it is because I’m a lone parent too so there’s little opportunity to meet people and when I do they’re put off by my traits. I didn’t realise that when you go to book club it’s actually about the host’s decor and shoes, you shouldn’t mention the hair either 😂

https://youtu.be/kgqD8GA9Vhs

Nice choice, I’ve not listened to them (Terranova) for ages

My traits have never been a problem for me either, it’s other people that have a problem with them lol

@Kuco the tests are an indicator that you may be autistic, it does need a formal diagnosis to confirm it as there are other conditions and disorders that are similar but may not have the difficulties which autistic people experience. If there are areas in which you struggle ask the Dr for a referral, your area might have support services

That’s similar to what my gp said, when I asked why he just said that autistic people can react differently, then when I asked how he didn’t have a reply. I’ve asked to see a regular therapist or cpn but they’re insisting that it has to be an autism specialist, I’d have hoped something was better than nothing especially as I have kids. I do worry about the negative impact I have on them as I struggle to provide a nurturing environment for them

Piece of Mind podcast with Professor Jeremy Hall, Director of Cardiff University’s Neuroscience and Mental Health Research. He discusses some of the latest research into autism and how autistic people are more likely to experience mental health problems like depression and anxiety.

Andy Weatherall came for tea once

Tj; I’ve got a new boss too, just as I thought I’d learned how to get on with my old one. The new one is a proper boss, a former tesco executive, whereas the last one was a managers’ son and couldn’t give a toss. I get the impression that it’s best that I avoid him, just in case I go and say something like “is that excuse applicable for me too?” or “if I had a dick you’d listen”

I’m really anxious about what I say and do, both inside and outside of work. It didn’t help that someone I know said that I “have odd mannerisms” and that I’m “nippy”, “weird”, “special”, “different” and “bot” amongst other comments, I don’t socialise anymore and hide behind my keyboard because of it

Tj, it’ll not go to plan so be prepared. For the first day back I like to get my uniform and the things I need ready the night before as that’s the only thing you can practically do. I find it hard to plan in advance as there’s so many variables in an average day that I never know which potential situation to prepare for. I take each moment at a time, and only focus on what I have to do next, then it doesn’t get too overwhelming. Do you have somewhere at work where you can take a few quiet moments? Even if it’s just the toilets, I find that having a few minutes can help me carry on without a shutdown or meltdown. More often than not I wonder what I was stressing about when I get there and just slip into my routine

Wow! That’s a shocking amount waiting for a diagnosis. I hardly had to wait at all for my initial assessment, however I am 2yrs into an 18mth waiting list to see a specialist for therapy and I can’t get antidepressants without self sectioning as there’s not enough CPN’s with the relevant training.

Even after 3 suicide attempts in the past year hasn’t given me access to the support I need, I’m considering a 4th go as my circumstances will never change. As the woman in the OddMumOut (sorry for the fb link above) said “the natural difficulties I experienced as a child, teenager and young adult will never cease. They won’t go, as they are things that I’ll face on a daily basis, because I can never change that I’m autistic.

I thought it would be better when I received a diagnosis and that people would be more accepting, after all we are all there to support the parents of autistic children. People forget that these children grow into adults (if they haven’t committed suicide, 66% of autistic people have attempt suicide and the average life expectancy is 47 for autistic women, the highest suicide risk group) Autism and its constant stigmatisation is a gift to NT’s, it allows them to bond over their awkward children, they make a career out of it and become a pillar of the community.

If there was a cure I’d take it

Ten things Autism isn’t…

I remember discussing whether they should have had a solid proposal before having a referendum, before we had the Scottish one. I cba to find the evidence but I’m sure it was because they weren’t allowed to have negotiations before they had a memorandum from the people

Lol, you’ll survive with the patience of an exhausted parent

Sorted, you’ve got all the skills and traits covered. I’m looking forward to this 🙂

So many people pay lip service to depression, how many times have people said talk about it? Or if you need me…

How many have actually responded to someone needing help when they need it? Or have you turned your back, claiming you were busy?

I’ve went to the Dr but couldn’t get medication without self sectioning as I’m autistic, I’m 2yrs into a 18mth waiting list for specialist help and I tried speaking to friends but they’ve been busy for the last year. I didn’t think I could feel any worse, then I tried the Internet.

There are some beautiful souls out there, who reach out but it’s not their responsibility to pick up the pieces after people have been shredded, which is often the ones who are “too kind”  in the first place. If you see someone has a weakness, don’t weaponise it and turn it against them. Be a random act of kindness, your intervention may give someone hope

Excellent! You’ve got the right credentials and I like your optimism, parenting will be a breeze after you’ve met me 😂