We are your demographic, and for what it’s worth are a two van outfit! We are far more likely to be carrying bikes than passengers so always had one van but when it came to say goodbye (very sadly) to my Mk2 GTI it made sense to have a van. So I have a caddy and the other van is a Vito (bought from a STWer!).
Before we bought the Vito we looked long and hard at T5s/ conversions and borrowed one from a trade friend who does conversions. This was useful as it made us look at whether we actually really wanted a sink/ cupboards/ bed etc in a van. And for us the answer was no – the main point for us of having a van is that the bikes & all the crap go inside and we use our van to go places/ get changed in out of the weather/ lug wood etc and for the money we didn’t spend on something bling/ converted we can stay in lots of lovely cottages/ B&Bs along the way – or whip out a tent if necessary.
Vans drive like vans! Get your wife out in one to see if she likes it. I personally love the higher driving position of the bigger van but if you’ve never driven something bigger & with a bulkhead like ours then you do need to get used to using the side mirrors more and parking. It’s not difficult but if she’s never driven one you really should try before you buy …. including parking, reversing up narrow lanes and hills/ round bends etc cause for some reason other drivers still seem to think vans will miraculously shrink when they get up alongside you … :wink: