It’s a problem many men face this is why suicide is so high in young men, we’re taught by society, media and sometimes our parents that to be a man we need to be strong be there to support our family to be the rock that everyone relies on. We’re taught not to have emotions not to get upset or cry. So we bottle things up learn how to put thing on the back burner and not really deal with traumatic events in our life. The problem is they don’t go away, when we’re with people we can hide it to both them and ourselves but when we’re alone we can’t hide the truth. We need to deal with traumatic events in our lives in a healthy way and go through the greaving process to be able to manage these events weather that be the death of a relative or the loss of a partner.
We need to talk we need to tell our friends how we feel we need to be able to show emotions and as men who’ve had it drummed into them that we shouldn’t its hard to change.
You need to talk either to a councillor or a close friend you need to work out your emotions and what they are.
I recently lost my mum and went to a dark place as well. It wasn’t until I sat down and spoke about my feeling and emotions that I was able to deal with it. It’s not easy and you’ll feel emotions you don’t think you should but it the only way I found worked.
We need to change as men and we need to raise our sons to show them it ok to have emotions other than anger and aggression, its ok to cry, its ok to need support it ok to need love and its ok to have problems and issues. We need to be able to support each other as men and be there for each other. We need to be able to tell our friend we love them and give them hugs and not just when we’re drunk