Thanks for all the stuff guys. Really helpful advice and good to know not on own.
In the end I did the following;
1. Got her Mum to come back down – 2 days and then a week off work next week. Emotional support had been really helpful for her and therefore me.
2. Rented a hospital size breastpump machine. Only 30 quid a month. Basically going to bypass the technical bits. Oscar isn’t sucking enough for it to work apparently. Had the north Surrey breastfeeding consultant in, really good, identified the boy as the issue.
3. Have got formula and bottles to give him his bulk ‘white carbs’ feeds.
Bit disturbing the research on this stuff. Basically suggests that formula is actively bad, not just not best.
Am hoping that if she can feed him at least some breast milk for as long as possible that might have enough hormones and antibodies and magic stuff to make a difference. Like a multivitamin after eating pizza all day.
Time will tell. Mrs is much happier and he isn’t screaming the place down. We were able to come home after 3 nights at hospital, which is something.
Now onto the sleep stage. Wife is asleep, I’ve given the boy a dummy and am rocking the crib. More bad Dad I suppose. Now I’m feeling like the cheating failure. Can’t tell if he is happy, or I’ve just shut him up.
Guilty. But atleast the Mrs is now getting some sleep.