Tragic loss for so many around her im sure, its always heartbreaking to contemplate such a loss.
18 months ago I lost my best friend, we had some warning unlike your friend as she had cancer. But nothing truly prepares you for the total loss of somone so close.
Her husband had lots of practical help but resisted bereavement counselling. We did encourage him to take the children though and I’m so glad he did. They were brilliant and really helped not only the children – but the process they went through as a family did help him as it was very much for the whole family.
It will probably be some time before they are ready for something like that but there are good services out there. The hospital should be able to tell you what is available locally.
For all of us just being together immediately afterwards and knowing you werent the only one to be feeling the pain and shock of it all meant so much. only time takes the edge off that pain