cards on the table – I don’t mind doing a bit of baking and even find it therapeutic.
Have got a situation where I’ll bake a cake for the tea room at work (once/twice a month) and won’t hold back on making it a proper job rather than the average supermarket ‘cake in a box’ garbage that ends up on the table usually.
I do it cos I really like eating tasty cakes and giving people something they can’t just buy anywhere – plus it makes the vibe abit better in the team. Not doing it to be a hero or get the ‘mad respect’ but I’m not about – if I’m doing it I’m going for it – usually producing pretty good results tbh.
It’s a mixed team of 13 people age 24 – 40 (I’m 38) also fairly split english/scots and we all get on pretty well although the is abit of culture of ‘slaggin people for lols’ and herein lies the rub.
Everytime I bring baking in a subset of the group (4 people – all the scots and younger than me) love to rip the piss and say that it’s my wife doing all the baking and that I’m passing it off as my own work – whilst quite happily enjoying the cakes! Anything I say at all to even slightly counter this just eggs them on even more and they get a kick of seeing that it winds me up and accuse me of being ‘very defensive lol’. I’m left feeling abit embarrassed at them being dicks when I’m going out of my way to be nice.
I could just be a stroppy and say next time it happens is the last time I bring stuff in but that feels like I’m just empowering them.
The rest of the group are genuinely grateful and one of the english guys said to me discretely that bantz at work is generally funny but he finds this whole cake wind up situ just rude/embarrassing so it’s not just me being a princess.
I know Glaswegians love a bit of the old back and forth and maybe its a mark of respect or whtevr so I should just suck it up like a big fanny? – but I kind of can’t be arsed doing it again – I try to go along with it but it doesnt feel like bantz when they’re ripping the piss. I only did in the first place as I want my work to be the kind of place where someone might want to bake a cake for everyone :/
pretty confident a discrete whatsapp asking to them ‘play nice’ will be just end up in a digital kicking
PS: its not all guys rinsing me out – one of them is a lass who is gluten intolerant – and I made her a mini raspberry pavlova two weeks ago specifically so she’d be involved (god I’m such a gimp)