[Closed] When was the last time you cried?

Since having kids I've become far more susceptible to scattered tears. Probably due to lack of sleep. The last time I was in bits was over football FFS.

I cry over anything. Seriously, I cry over adverts, spilt stuff in the kitchen, anything. I've always been a bit of a weeper though :/

Tried writing this post a few times but everyday since 4am on June 25th when I was called and told that my boyfriend of 3 years had been killed by a drink driver whilst he was on the 2nd day of his cycle ride across America. He should have been arriving home on Thursday. Still doesn't feel real- i was looking for him at arrivals when picking his mum up from the airport. When I'm lost in a day dream or when I refuse to acknowledge it's happened I have to pinch myself by remembering how cold he was when went to see him since it happened. I'm struggling.

today... it's been a bit of an emotional one.

Everytime I watch Ice Age....so every morning before work.

tyredbiker - that's shit.

saying 'time will help' is trite but it is true, however, nothing's going to help you through the short term except your freinds and family - don't push them away when they try and help, even if they're not sure what to do or say.

tyredbiker thats horrible 🙁

virtual hug sent your way.

Cheers guys, one of the hardest things has been knowing that my parents are having to deal with me, whether I'm bawling like a toddler, shouting obscenities or probably the worst just silent and numb and shut off from the world and all whilst they are dealing with their own grief. They don't always say the right thing but they are there.

Unfortunately I'm a southern lass and have one more year at uni in scotland- I know my friends will be there for me if I need them to be but it's alot of shit to put on a bunch of 21 year olds. Hopefully the uni will be supportive though- and I'll probably get in contact with Cruse which is a charity that helps those going through bereavement.

It's just utter crap- there's not one place I love that we haven't been to together. He got me into cycling- and when I'm out on the bike I can escape a bit. I haven't cycled alone yet though- someone else being there helps me to suck it in a bit. Memories come flooding back regardless though- even silly things like my friend charging ahead and remembering how D would insist I went first so he would be there straight away if I hurt myself.

I can't give you any advice, but I feel for you. Stay strong.

In Ikea, about ten years ago. Awful sodding place.

Thats awful. Sorry for your loss tyredbiker.

truly shit tyredbiker, sorry to hear. horrible situation. don't worry about your parents it's what they're for, let them take some burden.

That really is shit tyredbiker. 🙁 I hope things get better with time...they will, when the fog of the present clears.

As for me, I cried singing the national anthem recently.

tyredbiker thats very very sad.

On a lighter note, puff the magic dragon or bright eyes always sets me off.

I don't want to make light of this thread given tyredbiker's posts, but it's also one of the reasons I love STW despite the near constant bickering - in this case hh45's post right in the middle of the other ones. Proper spat my coffee out.

Most days since my younger brother (aged 21) died whilst out riding on May 30th. Still struggling with to accept it. He was my best friend.

Tyredbiker - Andyhilton : really terrible. Bad things happen to good people. Put anything I was going to post in totally perspective. 😥

Massive virtual hugs for Tyredbiker and Andyhilton. So sorry.

Last time I cried properly (full-on uncontrollable sobbing) was at my auntie-in-law's funeral, in March. Other than that I did have a bit of a stifled blub when I watched The Time Traveller's Wife the other weekend.

Massive virtual hugs for Tyredbiker and Andyhilton. So sorry.

Agreed with putting things in perspective. Working at a gym because otherwise I can't afford university (was in two minds going back as it's where we met and worked together but my colleagues have been really supportive and also told me some funny stories such as D having his eye on me since I was 16, which given the 5year age gap is just wrong!).

Had some one ask how I was getting on and how D was last week- threw me as I wasn't expecting it at all. But all these moaning women come in complaining about such trivial things and I have to bite my tongue from yelling 'I don't give a flying **** about your aqua aerobics being cancelled! Go jump in your own pi$$ somewhere else! I've lost the man I thought I was going to spend my life with!' Been a bit rude to the horrible ones though- figure I can get away with it at the moment...

I'm so sorry AndyHilton.

Thanks for the comments. It's shit and it doesn't make sense but I keep getting told it will get easier.

tyredbiker - I can sort of understand what you're probably going through.If you want to talk my email's in my profile.

I'm almost sorry I started this thread...........

But then, looking at the support and (virtual) friendship here, I'm not.

Tyred and Andy, it may mean nothing, it may mean everything, but we are here for you.

I have to bite my tongue from yelling'I don't give a flying **** about your aqua aerobics being cancelled! Go jump in your own pi$$ somewhere else! I've lost the man I thought I was going to spend my life with!'

when my knee cap was up on my thigh and my lower leg was at a right angle to my thigh 😯

That frikken hurt and a few tears were rolling I must admit, still fugged and going through intensive physio to rebuild my leg strength.

but nothing like the boys Tyred and Andy that's on a different level - all the best to you and your family

Thanks again guys. Cycling has been a refuge. I'd have cracked up now without it.

Couple of years back now - but the day of my wee boys funeral I think. It was a while after his death (12 days old, suspicious circumstances so massive hold up until the courts would let it go ahead). Still not entirely got over it, and the events of and leading up to that time still haunt me and have massive bearing on my life.

I think I am still somewhat emotionally fragile in some respects from that, yet I have hardened my heart in other ways which was needed in order to move on in life from that entirely traumatic time.

I don't want to make light of this thread given tyredbiker's posts, but it's also one of the reasons I love STW despite the near constant bickering - in this case hh45's post right in the middle of the other ones. Proper spat my coffee out.

Apologies, in typical impatient style I read five posts then went straight to the end and posted. My condolences to all those with real losses to cry over.

reading tyredbiker's posts have made me shed a little tear. as has the news that bullhearts sarcoma is in remission. oh and the news of impending baby bullheart.
tyerdbiker and andy, i have no idea what you are going through but my thoughts are with you. can't imagine losing my sister or my wife.

Quite a lot!, usually every time i watch Diy sos The big build!, really chokes me up when i see act's of kindness like that, i would be a right cry baby if i worked on that show.
Sad storys in a paper or magazine....music that reminds me of a certain person or event in my life.

My wife used to cry a lot until she developed Post natal depression after the birth of our second child, that was over 2 yrs ago now and iv'e never seen her cry since...not even at her Grans funeral, i think its blunted her emotions.

when my knee cap was up on my thigh

AndyHilton- that would be great- currently in Cornwall with family so only on the phone when I'm being antisocial will try and email but will when I'm back on Sunday regardless.

Don Simon- I came pretty close but went for a walk instead, they'd just have something else to complain about otherwise. His friend is arranging a fundraising day in Davids name for the charity he was cycling for ( http://www.justgiving.com/davidwilliams )so we've decided to put posters up in the gym so that more people know what has happened without having to write something brutal and final. Hopefully they've been put up whilst I've been away otherwise I'll get some nosy member poking her beak in.

And lastly Captainflashheart- I'm so glad you did.

And lastly Captainflashheart- I'm so glad you did.

Very windy here, just got a bit of grit in my eye.........

🙂

I'm almost sorry I started this thread....

Nah man. These threads bring out the best in folk, all folk, on here. Well done for starting it. Seriously mate.

Need threads like this, to share stuff. Good to be able to release, sometimes. I've met some of the nicest people I've ever met because of threads like this on STW.

Need to stop and think about what's [i]really[/i] important, now and then. There but for the grace of God and all that.

Can't even begin to find the right words to say to Tyred and AndyH. Other than to say keep on reading this silly forum, cos there's times when it's a proper beacon in the darkness.

Manhugs out to Capt. Kronos too 🙁

"Cycling has been a refuge"

Oh yes.

March. Just climbing back up from the wife leaving me and my mum passing away, thinking I was doing ok, driving to Llandegla for a solo bike ride and a certain song came on the radio. I just fell to bits. Had to pull over and boo'd my heart out.

Felt good though.

Capt. Kronos :Prior to the arrival of my first son I bought a new bike - "my last kidless treat" - He died at 30 days after a mistake at birth. It took months before I could even look at the bike and eventually passed it on.

Seven years on I've got a 5 and 4 year old and now getting back in to cycling - thanks largely to STW'ers.

I cry lot more than I used to, but STW helps me laugh too.

<< a bit dusty in here I better mtfu>>

prolly this thursday , a friends funeral, all very sudden.

just now, after reading the bullheart thread.

Yesterday, met my cousins 2 day old baby. My uncle (baby's grandfather) died last September, It hit me how much he would have loved to have seen his first grandchild, I was keeung the tears back until someone said "he will have met him in heaven already" which didn't really make sense but I cried like a baby (while the baby smiled and giggled)

watching marley and me when marley puts his head on JA's lap after she finds out she can't have kids, then when marley is put down. the beginning of Up, most pixar films have some scene thats designed to make grown men cry, before that... the notebook... pretty much every scene where you can see he loves her as much as i do mrsconsequence. before that... well i could list half my film collection!

as somebody mentioned, visual does it for me... i can listen to horrific stories or rape and murder, mental illness, death all day long and a quick lolcat cheers me up... but if a film lines up the music and throws some kinda act of love, act of defiance, father-son-reconciliation etc etc at me then there will be tears rolling down my cheeks.

bad stuff doesnt make me cry... nice stuff does.

*cyber hug to everyone who needs one*

Tyred and AH, so sorry. Dont know what you're going through but lost several family members so know it cant be great.

excellent with the just giving - i will donate.

keep strong the both of you.

Stuey - cheers, still not got back on the mountain bike to be honest. I haven't had all that much motivation to do so since then - keep meaning to and life keeps getting in the way.

Got a new girlfriend now and a 3 month old son to boot which is taking up a fair bit of time. It doesn't make the past go away though, and I still get massive waves of sadness at random moments (I think I am over the depression now though)

Bloomin Ek.. some sorry old stories coming out here.

( HUGS ) to all...

Moi, well I didn't cry when my best mate died (in a motorbike accident) many years ago, I didn't cry when my cousin died (great mate, committed suicide) I didn't cry when my Grand Parents died either, I didn't cry when my Father died (of Bowel Cancer) all this came within a few years mind, whilst some other family stuff was going on.. But I did cry when I split from my first Real GF back then (similar time) where we'd bought a home and planning for the future etc. (that took a while to get over I can tell ya's) I did cry once when I fell off my bike whilst racing (similar time) I did cry when I lost my business due to recession (similar time) I did cry when one of my dogs had to go back to the farmer we bought him from.
Now though I tend to have a bit of a weep at silly things, like films, good stories of people overcoming stuff and now little sentimental stuff.
But in the main I'm very good at detachment, but I think I've learned that over the years.

Way too much sadness going on in the world and until it affected me personally, I know that I was in a bubble of naiveté.

To all those that have lost someone, whether they had the good fortune to know them their whole life or only for a matter of days my condolences.

David wasn't a saint, but he was irritatingly close! Whether it was cycling for charity (such as his solo ride across America for Find Your Feet or group rides with International childcare trust), working at a centre caring for children with disabilities, or his plan for us to do healthcare work in S.America when he became a doctor, Dave was a truly incredible person and has and will continue to be a source of inspiration.

So this is where I need help from STW-I'm not asking for money (but if you'd like to then the link to the justgving page he set up before leaving is in s previous post) but instead I'm asking for ideas for challenges such as John O'groats to lands end. One day I will finish the ride he started but think I should probably work myself up first

this thread has just set me off again. *cries*