[Closed] What are your social anxieties...?

I am basically one big ball of social anxiety.

Mine is getting to a bar with a bunch of students in front of me each only buying their own drink instead of ordering a round and not having the guts to tell them to nob off.

OP, that's not a social anxiety, that's just being tight 😀

[i]I am basically one big ball of social anxiety. [/i]

+1

that and talking to people in any environment with background noise - I can't pick out what they're saying from the other noise.

For some reason i end up getting drunk and buying far more drinks for people than i get back, and end up wondering why my wallet is empty the next morning! 😡

Nah, it's not only about the money, it's the whole concept that makes me uncomfortable.
Plus, TBH spending money on booze is a whopping waste of cash. I'll do it every now and then, but there's a million and one things I'd rather splash out on.
For example, I'd rather take a group out for a meal and treat them to that, than buy endless rounds...

DrP

The only social anxiety I have is other people. Remove them from any social situation and I'm fine.

that and talking to people in any environment with background noise - I can't pick out what they're saying from the other noise.

I live in fear of succumbing to a social anxiety... It's ruining my life.

Hey Yorkshire89, want to go for a pint?

*leaves wallet at home*

Never buy rounds unless it's a Big Night Out.

Personally, I have no social anxieties. Am I normal? I worry and fret about not having anything to worry and fret about, I really do.

For example, I'd rather take a group out for a meal and treat them to that, than buy endless rounds...

You must be going on some serious benders to be buying multiple rounds on a regular basis with a group!

Riding my ridig SS with boingy geardy weirdies - do I overtake them on climbs to keep my momentum and look like an arse only to be passed by them on the flat/decent.

I lose sleep over this and it's why I mostly ride alone (that and having no friends anyway!)

Not being able to hear in clubs is just a sign of age 😀 . It never used to be a problem but now I'm 40 it's just impossible.

The other night in a club I had the most ridiculous conversation with a young lady (ahem) whereby I could only hear about half of what she was saying. I made her shout so loud that my ear went pop and I was beset by tinnitus! We then both agreed it wasn't worth carrying on and she walked off.

Perhaps my wife has secretly implanted something in my ears that trips at the sound of a young female voice 😯

No thanks Jamie, while sober im tigter than a ducks a*se 😛

That's why I put vodka on your cornflakes 😀

Go on then, i'll get the first round in...

Plus, TBH spending money on booze is a whopping waste of cash. I'll do it every now and then, but there's a million and one things I'd rather splash out on.
For example, I'd rather take a group out for a meal and treat them to that, than buy endless rounds...

None I can think of though everyone else seems to have them? E.g. the other week someone was playing videos on their phone on the table next to me in the pub and the noise was p*ssing me off and spoiling my quiet drink. I told them to turn it down or use ear phones. Everyone I told this to seemed amazed that I confronted the offender!

Mine is getting to a bar with a bunch of students in front of me each only buying their own drink instead of ordering a round and not having the guts to tell them to nob off.

I bet they all pay with a cash card too? Boils my p*ss that does.

As for social anxieties, it has been brought to my attention that I can be quite anti-social because I can't be bothered engaging in meaningless smalltalk with people. It's not that I can't do it, I just have no interest in what someone did at the weekend, how their holiday was, how their journey was, whether they're busy at work etc, because I already know that they probably went out with the family at the weekend, that their holiday was great (even though it probably wasn't), that the traffic was bad, and that they're really busy at work.

I hate noisy places too.

I don't mind buying rounds though.

Rounds - I can only drink two pints WTF would i want to do rounds for?
Adds Dr P to friends list
Splitting meals - **** off i am veggie and dont drink so I am not paying for your meat and booze. Once went out with a couple [ not swinging mind] and they drank three bottles of wine they insisted we split the bill. Reasoning with them was complicated for me, the manager and the police.
Greeting- what do you do , grunt and say hello or those faux showbiz kisses?
Low cut tops - they want you to look but you are never meant to be caught looking

[i]that and talking to people in any environment with background noise - I can't pick out what they're saying from the other noise.[/i]

A friend of mine hat a solution to this, but I have not yet seen it implemented. Special dukebox in a pub - pop in some cash and you buy minutes of silence - no music played. Lets say - 20p buys you no music for a minute

Accidentally meeting someone from STW when out and about. Usually have to give a fake name if anyone asks, I'm so worried about it.

Splitting meals - **** off i am veggie and dont drink so I am not paying for your meat and booze. Once went out with a couple [ not swinging mind] and they drank three bottles of wine they insisted we split the bill. Reasoning with them was complicated for me, the manager and the police

Adds Junky to Ignore / unfriend list.

Accidentally meeting someone from STW when out and about. Usually have to give a fake name if anyone asks, I'm so worried about it.

Meeting anyone off a forum is odd - "Hello, I'm Woblywib37". That's why I always just use my name.

Oh, mine is seeing people from old workplaces/school/college that I wasn't mates with at the time. If i spot them in the street i pretend I'm looking at something in a shop window etc so I don't have to speak to them!

Another is presenting in front of people, never been a fan of that.

breathes sigh of relief at avoiding a free loader who wants me to pay for some of their meal/drink - I bet it saves us an argument about tipping as well 😉

Junkyard - lazarus

Rounds - I can only drink two pints WTF would i want to do rounds for?

To get your alcohol tolerance up? Ya light weight! 😉

Not splitting meals drives me nuts. If I'm out with friends, we will always split the bill whatever. I cannot stand people who get their phone out and start totting up what they've ordered, I find it cheap and embarrassing. I know that next time I'll have a few glasses of wine or a more expensive dinner than them and it'll even itself up.

Woblywib37

LOL

Junkyard - lazarus
breathes sigh of relief at avoiding a free loader who wants me to pay for some of their meal/drink - I bet it saves us an argument about tipping as well

Mate if you were that ridiculous about the bill and tipping i'd just pay it all and move on.... lifes too short 🙂

I was hasty perhaps we could go for a meal and discuss it 8)

Junkyard - lazarus
I was hasty perhaps we could go for a meal and discuss it

Come over to mine, i've got an Iceberg lettuce here with your name on it.

Mate if you were that ridiculous about the bill and tipping i'd just pay it all and move on.... lifes too short

^This.

I've made up the difference before when someones argued that they only had this or that and shouldn't be paying this much. Funnily enough, I don't go out for dinner with them again.

I have a real problem remembering names and faces. Apparently there is some sort of 'ism' regarding this but its more likely I just can't be bothered subconsciously.

However it is regularly embarrassing as most people I have previously met just think I am ignoring them.

Sometimes it backfires though and I start conversations with people I've never met before.

Other than being socially awkward, it can be a real problem when I have to attend professional functions for work. Thankfully they don't send me to many now, and I generally turn down invites unless there's a really good after dinner speaker (another Phil Tuffnell has just landed on my desk - thats a no then!)

I suspect Hora and Junky going out for a meal and a few drinks would end up as the most painfully prolonged, argumentative, dissection of a bill in the history of mankind 😉

I've made up the difference before when someones argued that they only had this or that and shouldn't be paying this much. Funnily enough, I don't go out for dinner with them again.

Yip. And in my experience Its always the ones on the highest salaries, with the biggest, Germanist cars, dressed head to toe in designer gear, who chip in with "but I didn't have any garlic bread....."

strokers!

40mph - prosopagnosia is the proper term for 'face blindness', but I suspect that your 2nd explanation may be more true.

Loud music/inaudible conversations, over-orderers who then split the bill, inane smalltalk... where do I sign up to the grumpy old man club?

Greeting- what do you do , grunt and say hello or those faux showbiz kisses?

Yeah actually. I thought I didn't have anything to add to this thread but greeting people and leaving can be a bit of a chore/dilemma.

With my wifes family you have to go and give everyone a hug & kiss or handshake every time you go round or leave. Such a bloody palava. Fair enough if it's just whoever opens the door or people you haven't seen for a while but we probably see them at least twice a week and it's the entire room. I swear that with people coming and going, it must be at least 10% of the time spent giving stupid hugs.

Neither if us would have our wallets Binners 😉

I have had £6 meals with no drinks and folk want £20 + as they got pissed and ate steak.

Interesting that you are seen as weird/tight/ stingy for expecting to pay for what you had but expecting others to pay for what you had is fine.

Do you split the travel costs if someone came further than you and their taxi ride is more expensive 😉
FWIW it really depends if its £8 and the bill is a tenner I am not going to get arsed but there is a point where I am not paying for your food/beer.

Meeting anyone off a forum is odd - "Hello, I'm Woblywib37". That's why I always just use my name.

Me too Ben, me too.

I have a real problem remembering names and faces. Apparently there is some sort of 'ism' regarding this but its more likely I just can't be bothered subconsciously.

However it is regularly embarrassing as most people I have previously met just think I am ignoring them.

Sometimes it backfires though and I start conversations with people I've never met before.

Haha I never remember names but everyone remembers me. I just use "man" a lot and assume I have met most people. I've lost count of the number of times that I've introduced myself to people I've met before. Even multiple times!

I have had £6 meals with no drinks and folk want £20 + as they got pissed and ate steak.

Interesting that you are seen as weird/tight/ stingy for expecting to pay for what you had but expecting others to pay for what you had is fine.

But if you came out and ordered a massive steak, drank wine etc, i wouldn't argue with splitting the bill... it's call friendship 🙂

I worry about other people in the group worrying about me not worrying enough.