Just as a counterpoint, how many of the above have been off supporting ISIS, had children by/for them and have been banned from returning?
My example was silly of course but the point was that if you are rich enough you can do any amount of damage to the country you like and no-one is removing your citizenship.
Don’t grooming and gullible go hand in hand?
Careful. There is fine line between statements like that and victim blaming. Are sex abuse victims in public schools / families / sports clubs a bit gullible?
Careful. There is fine line between statements like that and victim blaming. Are sex abuse victims in public schools / families / sports clubs a bit gullible?
Exactly
Oh and 'groomed' says who? The person trying to get their citizenship reinstated?
The old 'actions speak louder...' saying springs to mind. All this limp wristed hand wringing over this poor victim... No one really knows what preceded her trip and for how long. I wouldn't trust either her or the authorities versions as both are unreliable and the rest of us - just don't know.
Voluntarily buggering off to shag/marry/have children with ISIS at 15 is no accident and she should be held accountable within the law.
Careful. There is fine line between statements like that and victim blaming. Are sex abuse victims in public schools / families / sports clubs a bit gullible?
No, but that’s not the case here is it?
She’s been in contact with bad people who she has been horribly misled by. She wasn’t forced into anything, however she’s been tricked/misled/whatever you want to call it into going along with that, the very definition of gullible. Calling that out isn’t victim blaming
I’m not suggesting Being gullible means she deserved to end up as she did.
Edit…removed the word ‘doesn’t’!!
Gullible or impressionable?
Hence why we don't allow 15 yo to make very many decisions.
Victim or no, we'll never truly know because there is no investigation and then either subsequent charges for criminality or support for someone groomed and all that entails.
Ironically the current sanction could push someone back into the arms of an organisation like ISIS.
Groomed for sure, gullible - maybe (aren't all kids a bit gullible, or do we say impressionable when it suits better?), a terrorist / member of a terrorist organisation - don't know. I mean, she has said that she joined IS, but in the same way as we assess an individual's competence to take responsibility for their actions in a criminal trial, we should be doing the same here and trying to determine how much was her own free choice and did she really understand the choices she was making.
But we don't do that by stripping of citizenship and leaving her in limbo.
If she was 18, all that would be ‘advice’…
But she wasn't.
going along with that, the very definition of gullible. Calling that out isn’t victim blaming
I’m not suggesting Being gullible doesn’t mean she deserved to end up as she did
Absolutely. Otherwise everyone could pull that trick. A grown up version of 'he made me do it'...
Gullibility does not negate responsibility and most 15 year olds are well aware of the boundaries of acceptable behaviour. 5 maybe not, 15 absolutely.
Maybe she deserves a day in court, but moving to render her stateless for decisions taken prior to her GCSEs seems slightly high on the sentencing scale.
If she was 18, all that would be ‘advice’…
But she wasn’t
No she wasn't. And she doesn't get a free pass at 15 which is over the age of Criminal responsibility AIUI.
I don't know whether she's a victim or a terrorist, but I do know she's British and she's therefore our problem.
She should be returned to the UK and dealt with appropriately here (either with sympathy or prosecution), not left in Syria because she's brown.
It was an entirely racist decision to remove her citizenship, as if that is something in the gift of the government for people who are born here legally.
It's outrageous.
Se was 15, and society failed her. At what age do the knew-what-she-was-doing hard right wingers on here (because they are, we know that much) think someone should be held entirely responsible for their actions. I see the 6-year-old American has been locked up. Perhaps they should be locking up the parents, the gun lobbyists, the politicians... but not the 6-year-old.
Voluntarily buggering off to shag/marry/have children with ISIS at 15
By law, you cannot voluntarily shag or marry at 15, as you're under the age of legal consent, by which we, as a society, are saying you are too young to make that decision.
We cannot say she is too young to make it, and also say that it's her fault for making it.
Gullibility does not negate responsibility and most 15 year olds are well aware of the boundaries of acceptable behaviour. 5 maybe not, 15 absolutely.
They are to a degree, but some are more impressionable than others
As for negating responsibility. It’s not as if she’s going to get away with a stern talking to and no pudding for tea. She’s spent the last 2 years in a hell hole, her baby has died and she’s probably going to be living with the repercussions of this for the rest of her life.
I think, as a 15 year old girl she’s been punished enough no?
I don't agree with removing her citizenship - why should we, a wealthy developed country dump our problems on other countries to sort out.
I think the UK Government should reinstate her citizenship, and tell her is she wants to present herself to border force she'll be dealt with by the courts, if she's done nothing wrong, and there is no case to answer it won't take long.
However I certainly don't think we should spend a penny or risk anyone else's lives going to retrieve her from Syria/wherever she is..
Something that just occurred to me and may be an elephant in the room. Her parents role in all this? Were they traditional muslims? I don't know but Islam tends imo to be a religion that pushes women into a subservient role and teaches them to obey men. Did that play a part?
Or were her parents absent parents leaving her vulnerable?
Its just something I have not seen ( but not looked into at all) but surely the parents have some role in all this and some culpability
By law, you cannot voluntarily shag or marry at 15
Not in this Country for sure. I don't think she did that here did she? I'm sure she did the buggering off bit here tho which she chose to do.
IHN I'm confused by your point, probly on account on my being a bit thick 🙃. Are you saying she can't be held accountable for actually doing the things she's not allowed to do because she's too young to do them in the UK?
her baby has died
She's had three children. They've all died.
Its just something I have not seen ( but not looked into at all) but surely the parents have some role in all this and some culpability
Careful TJ, that's all a bit victim-blamey too. How many parents know everything that they're teenage children are getting up to online?
IHN, sustained.
I’m not suggesting Being gullible doesn’t mean she deserved to end up as she did
That was a typo on my behalf, since edited. I removed the word ‘doesn’t’. Are you seriously suggesting being a gullible 15 year old deserves to get the punishment she has been given?
Just musings. Not victim blaming unless yo consider the parents to be victims as well
I don't know the family situation. I'm just wondering how much family life payed a role
We are all products of our upbringing
a couple of white catholics I know recently found their 16-year-old son is being being groomed by older Muslims at school and gym club. It's kicked off somewhat... .
So I wouldn't assume anything about the parents, TJ. Edit: you've reposted with a moderation, all good.
Are you saying she can’t be held accountable for actually doing the things she’s not allowed to do because she’s too young to do them in the UK?
I'm saying that we, as a society, say that a 15 year old does not have the capacity to make the decision to consent to have sex (and, by extension, marry). So, anyone who sleeps with a 15 year old is, by definition, committing an act of rape as the 15 year cannot have given consent. Anyone who spends time online with a 15 year old for the purposes of persuading them to have sex/marry is, by definition, grooming them
So, for us, as a society, to say to her "you weren't groomed or raped, it's your fault for being persuaded to go and have sex/get married" is ridiculous.
Is it 'victim blaming'? Due to her current predicament no investigation can be held to ascertain if she is in fact a victim or a willing supporting participant in a death cult due to shit-housery by our elected 'betters'.
Trying to do the usual of silencing discussion amd musings by the use of pejorative phrases isn't helpful.
Many seem to speak with a confidence of facts they do not possess. Peak STW.
So I wouldn’t assume anything about the parents, TJ.
Im not. I made it clear I don't know. I'm asking questions
Discussing whether or not she was gullible/innocently sucked-in or knew exactly what she was doing - would be exactly the point of the trial that should be happening now.
I don't really have a strong opinion on "gullible/innocently sucked-in" VS "knew exactly what she was doing" (take THAT echo chamber!), but I do have a very strong opinion about what the government did.
Not only does it deliver (an extremely harsh - considering she didn't actually DO any terrorism) punishment to a minor without a trial, it does so just for the political "optics"..... just to keep the daily mail/express readers happy, who were baying for her blood. And yes, I absolutely do think there was a large element of race in that - as there inevitably seems to be in all things with respect to the Tory "Base".
I think what probably offended me most though was the feeling that the UK was just saying to the world "somebody else can deal with that", instead of viewing it as our own responsibility (which it clearly is).
Are you seriously suggesting being a gullible 15 year old deserves to get the punishment she has been given?
Is that for me?
If so, I'm suggesting she should be held accountable under the law for her actions. That means, reinstating her Citizenship which I don't accept the Govt has the right to remove (not revoke - it was never 'theirs' to issue in the first place).
Being 15 is a red herring for me. She may or may not be gullible/trafficked/groomed etc but that does not automatically get you a free pass. It need dealing with properly. As it would be if she stabbed a girl at school over some petty squabble. A full and proper investigation should (should) determine the circumstances which would inform next steps.
I’m saying that we, as a society
In the UK. We don't share our age ideals with all of the rest of the World...
If so, I’m suggesting she should be held accountable under the law for her actions. That means, reinstating her Citizenship which I don’t accept the Govt has the right to remove (not revoke – it was never ‘theirs’ to issue in the first place).
I don't think anyone here would disagree, but it's a seperate issue to the question of trafficked or terrorist.
It need dealing with properly. As it would be if she stabbed a girl at school over some petty squabble. A full and proper investigation should (should) determine the circumstances which would inform next steps.
I think everyone here probably agrees with that?
*winces*
In the UK. We don’t share our age ideals with all of the rest of the World…
Okay, another thought experiment:
- a 15 year old is groomed online by someone she's never previously met and persuaded to go to, I dunno, Peterborough, to meet someone, who has sex with (i.e. rapes) her. This, by law (and I hope at least some of us agree), would be a bad thing, she would be a victim, he would be a rapist
- a 15 year old is groomed online by someone she's never previously met and persuaded to go abroad to, I dunno, Madeupland where the age of consent is 12, to meet someone, who has sex with her there. Technically it's not rape in Madeupland, but are you saying that she's now not a victim, and he gets away with it, all because it's geographically unfortunate?
It need dealing with properly. As it would be if she stabbed a girl at school over some petty squabble. A full and proper investigation should (should) determine the circumstances which would inform next steps.
I think everyone here probably agrees with that?
I'm not sure. As I read some of the posts up there^, because she's 15/gullible/trafficked/manipulated/a victim etc, she's not responsible for her actions.
She is and should be held accountable. Criminal Responsibility and the Age of Consent are two separate things and one doesn't get you a free pass with the other...
There's a pricipal in French law that French law applies to its citizens who are victims of crimes abroad no matter what the natinality of the criminal. Anything similar in the UK? By the same token French law applies to French sex tourists abroad.
So in your second case the rape would still be a crime, IHN. Any legal experts?
Well if she has to go to PETERBOROUGH (my local City) all is forgiven... 🙃
I'm probly not being clear.
I'm saying conflating what could be considered statutary rape (by dint of age of consent) here with actions there (where 'it' may be legal) does not automatically make her a victim.
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Boblo - to be honest, I don't think we're thinking that differently. If I can rearrange your words slightly, this is where I'm at:
I’m suggesting reinstating her Citizenship. She may or may not be gullible/trafficked/groomed etc*, a full and proper investigation should determine the circumstances, including whether or not she should be held accountable under the law for her actions, which would inform next steps.
*I think we're at different ends of this bit currently, but that's what the investigation is for
but perhaps she’s being sacrificed as a deterrent for others thinking of doing this.
Nah, she was sacrificed because the Home Secretary Sajid Javid wanted to prove how Tory, right-wing, and British, he was.
I haven't much sympathy for what Begum did even as a 15 year old and her alleged lack of full remorse after ISIS fell. But she is a British born British citizen imo and the nationality of her parents is utterly irrelevant to this case.
The only reason for making it an issue is to pander to bigots.
Edit: The South Asians in recent Tory cabinets really remind me more an more of those two couples in 'Goodness Gracious Me' who constantly try to prove how more British they are than the other couple.
Oh and point of order. 3 pages of STW debate on quite a thorny subject and no shouting/biting/flouncing/banning - yet.
Blimey.
Okay, another thought experiment:
– a 15 year old is groomed online by someone she’s never previously met and persuaded to go to, I dunno, Peterborough, to meet someone, who has sex with (i.e. rapes) her. This, by law (and I hope at least some of us agree), would be a bad thing, she would be a victim, he would be a rapist
– a 15 year old is groomed online by someone she’s never previously met and persuaded to go abroad to, I dunno, Madeupland where the age of consent is 12, to meet someone, who has sex with her there. Technically it’s not rape in Madeupland, but are you saying that she’s now not a victim, and he gets away with it, all because it’s geographically unfortunate?
- a 17-year old is groomed by powerful men to cross US state lines to where the age of consent is 16 rather than 18. Conclusion, she's a victim and he's a paedophile.
Incidentally, in case you missed it, this was the discussion from three years ago.
https://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/british-is-female-wants-to-come-back-to-uk
a 17-year old is groomed by powerful men to cross US state lines to where the age of consent is 16 rather than 18. Conclusion, she’s a victim and he’s a paedophile.
Popcorn gif at the ready
Christ I didn't know all her children had died, I just heard about one a while back. Poor woman.
