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Hopefully semi retired by 54 in two years. Waiting for new nationality to come through then off to Europe, if my plan fails I’ll come back and get a job hey-Ho you have to try.
Brother was a big boss at Amazon. Thought he’d die at his desk but said sod it at 50 and retired has not regretted it but he is minted.


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 11:09 am
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You've convinced me. I've typed up my resignation email, just need to hit "Send".


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 11:09 am
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I’m 57, and both my Father and Grandfathers retired at 60. One of my two Uncles retired at 50, and so did my FIL (Thatcher privatisations of State industries generated lots of ‘early’ retirements). The ladies all were done by 60 too, except my Grandma, who retired at 60 then promptly went back and worked p/t through to 75 (Landlady).

I was going to say one swallow a summer doesn't make or some such thing, but turns out they weren't that unusual - a few years below average.

https://www.thisismoney.co.uk/money/news/article-2963287/Economists-say-employees-real-pay-rise-nearly-decade-wages-set-rise-1-9-cent-year.html


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 11:12 am
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I read the tales of early retirees whether doing cool adventures or just enjoying a relaxed pace of life, enviously!

Life is hectic for me and with 3 young kids late in life I'll be going to work a good while yet. If I'd not had kids then I'd possibly have retired late 50s, but now it'll be another decade probably. Still, the kids are great.... The kids are great... The kids are great....


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 11:19 am
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The kids are great expensive….

FIFY


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 11:20 am
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Not really. It is early compared previous generations.

It wasn't really a compare to previous generations thing.

State pension age is 67. It seems a little sad that retiring a mere 3 or 4 years ahead of that is noteworthy enough to be considered early.


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 11:38 am
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I was going to say one swallow a summer doesn’t make or some such thing, but turns out they weren’t that unusual – a few years below average.

That's an interesting graph - thanks for posting.

However - it would be interesting to know what they constitute 'retiring' as.

Is is drawing dawn a pension? Because a lot of people continue/go back to work after that.
Is it self declaring that you are no longer employed for financial gain and and won't seek it again in the future?
If your employment was 'domestic servitude' - i.e. you were a homemaker whilst other people in the house went out to earn money - do you 'retire' officially from that role or do you get added to the figure when your allotted state retirement age come up - in which case you might be pushing the average figure up.

With people investing in things like buy to let instead of an officially branded pension and gig economy style employment I think the official definition of retired is going to get hard to discern.

With firms no longer able to enforce retirement at a given age like they could in the past, that's going to mash it up further.

I've said it already further up but I don't see my finances making it possible for me to have no pid activity in my life before state retirement age (67 - so 17 years away) but I do see me switching careers and doing less days a week in a managed way long before then. I'm lucky that part of my pension matures at 60 which will definitely help me make this possible.


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 11:56 am
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Retired from the police age 52 in late 2019. Planned on doing a few bucket list things but Covid said no and ended up staying home more than was ideal. The honeymoon period was still enjoyable and I paid off debts and completed a number of long overdue home improvement projects.

In the longer term, I have found it hard to transition from being an experienced supervisor in a specialist team, attending incidents, making decisions, advising people and being constantly busy to all of that stopping overnight. Suddenly, no one needed my help or advice, no banter, excitement or feeling valued. Having nothing to get up for is depressing and it raised questions of self esteem and a kind of 'is this all there is? mentality. Wife noticed that I was more grumpy and down than usual and told me to go and do something useful.

I took a temporary role as a security escort driver at COP26 last year. It felt good to be busy again, chauffeuring world leaders escorted by a police bike team. Great fun but over too soon. It made me realise that I'm just not ready for the pipe and slippers.

I've since taken a part time job as an emergency driver with the ambulance service. Only been out a couple of times but so far it's fantastic. All of the interesting bits from going to incidents, meeting and helping people, a bit of blue light driving, banter, buzz, feeling useful again. Zero paperwork for me and the paramedic does all the clever stuff, perfect!

Long story short, retiring early has it's benefits but losing a huge chunk of who I was, was more detrimental than I ever imagined. I'm now lucky to be able to recapture some of the good stuff while still having time to myself. If you are still working and desperate to retire, be careful what you wish for and have a plan B up your sleeve.


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 12:13 pm
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For those of you in the 'gig' economy, what kind of part time work do you pick up. I'm looking to quit my job in the next couple of years in order to have a bit more time for me, but I don't want to stop work completely. I like the idea of picking up part time work as and when I fancy, but taking summers off to do more exciting things....bit like being a student again.


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 12:14 pm
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However – it would be interesting to know what they constitute ‘retiring’ as.

I was thinking the same, probably quite a bit on forced retirement rather than everyone just cashing in their final salary pensions and buggering off to the south of Spain...


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 12:18 pm
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Ploughing on, with 2 years until I hit 55 and can consider stopping.
I might not, but having the option would be marvellous.
I'm conscious that I am rather wishing my life away, over focusing on the deadline and not at all enjoying the scenery.
I am hugely fortunate to be well paid, respected but under a lot of pressure (as are many others). I would much rather swap that for an opportunity to ride, run, walk, DIY, read, explore.
Children have been hugely expensive, else I would probably have had more than enough savings to stop already. It's a choice I / we made many years ago, and I don't regret for an instant.


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 1:27 pm
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I am hugely fortunate to be well paid, respected but under a lot of pressure

Fwiw I was in a similar position (maybe not the well paid bit) and had an honest chat with my boss (board level) and the outcome is that I've written my own job spec for a part time low stress role, which means we can find (and train up) someone to fill my old job while keeping my experience etc available and I get to spend more time doing what I want, both at work and away from it. Yes I know I'm a lucky bast to have the opportunity but it's worth a try.


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 3:42 pm
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You’ll have a fair few years in ‘Premium’ which you can claim from age 60 for a start!

You can claim it from 55


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 4:34 pm
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If I retire 'early' it'll be at 63 and making do until my State Pension kicks in at 67, although that might be 68.

I plan to 'downsize' in my 50s, my Daughter will graduate (if she goes to Uni) when I'm 58, my Mortgage ends when I'm 63


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 5:26 pm
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Unless you're single or have a partner/wife/husband in a similar position, retiring early can be a curse after the initial honeymoon period is over. It has all been covered in previous posts.
I retired 7 yrs ago, at 49. Haven't looked back, but my wife retired a year after me so we are very much in it together. We do what we want, when we want. Not wealthy by any strecth of the imagination but 25 years of pre retirement planning means we don't need a big income. We walk, cycle, travel. She gardens, I ride my motorbike. It is great. No regrets whatsoever but we went into it with our eyes wide open and with a 'we will go back and work if we want to, not because we need to'.


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 6:29 pm
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someone to fill my old job while keeping my experience etc available

Lucky for you and pragmatic of your employer. I left my role in July (IT Director) and as with all jobs there were bits that I really enjoyed and other parts less so. I have applied, half heartedly for a handful of less senior roles since then and have been treated with suspicion. There is a real perception that if you have been a director why would you not aspire to at least that... A less senior or part time role would be perfect but there doesn't appear to be much of a market for that so what skills and experience I have looks to be lost.


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 7:42 pm
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My Dad retired at 55- he had an active retirement, him and Mum were able to spend weeks at a time several times a year with my sisters family in Spain.

Despite having no ailments (especially compared to peers on multiple pills), didn’t drink, smoke, wasn't overweight a massive heart attack got him at 69.

So make the most of it


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 8:22 pm
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Although I get the sentiment, I watched my grandparents and then parents sit indoors and stare at each other for 20 years after retirement.

There is so much opportunity for retired folk to keep busy these days at very little cost this shouldn't happen unless you want it to.


 
Posted : 08/04/2022 8:23 pm
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SO retired early at the start of the year at 55. Seems to be working out for them.

I could probably retire when I hit 55 but work is generally fun. I’d probably spend chunks of my day doing similar stuff just for the heck of it anyway. And working I get to work with very smart people and have deadlines and novel problems to think about.

Thinking of death and morbidity? Try some of these charts. https://ourworldindata.org/life-expectancy


 
Posted : 09/04/2022 2:00 am
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My Dad retired at 55- he had an active retirement, him and Mum were able to spend weeks at a time several times a year with my sisters family in Spain.

Despite having no ailments (especially compared to peers on multiple pills), didn’t drink, smoke, wasn’t overweight a massive heart attack got him at 69.

Pretty similar to my dad's story except he retired at 60.

Getting 9 years paid of a gold plated defined benefits scheme doesn't seem good value in that context.

Definitely a lesson. I want to be out by 55 for this reason, hopefully earlier.
Depends how the pension performs I guess, shoveling as much cash into it as I can but also saving to bridge the expected gap to NMPA going up to 57/58 in the next few years.


 
Posted : 09/04/2022 9:56 am
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Does anyone else find it a little sad that retiring at 60 odd counts as early retirement?

All depends on your life experience, Mine is enjoying my work but realising that I don't want to work beyond 60 (physical and mental health have determined this) but also I didn't want to go any earlier as the finances didn't work for me/us. Also we're a partnership and herself wants to work to 60 or 61 (Ulster Protestant work ethic) which will give me a couple of years to please myself (in between baking and cooking things) before we go and do some travelling together.


 
Posted : 09/04/2022 11:17 am
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