That's what everyone is saying. The dog we got in February changed a lot of things as it is. I figure it's just a further extension of that
OP good luck. It's going to be a strange mix of hanging tough whilst not forgetting yourself totally and allow "bad habits" (eg like being spoken to like a piece of sh.t) to become a feature of the relationship. I personally had a bad experience in that regard but forewarned is forearmed.
Anyway congratulations becoming a father is a wonderful experience and well worth the challenges.
Sounds like a right laugh, introducing a baby into the mix will calm it all down said nobody ever.
NZCol - MemberSounds like a right laugh, introducing a baby into the mix will calm it all down said [s]nobody ever[/s] [i][b]all those people that tried having a child to save their already faltering marriage[/b][/i]
fixed it for you
Hoping slightly more normal service will resume then.
Ha! The youngest of my three is now 20 and at no point has normal service been resumed. Enjoy the journey. Good luck!
When I say normal service, I'm just hoping for a bit less mental. I'm also hoping our daughter decides she likes camping at a fairly early age as the wife refuses to go in a tent and I love camping...
Also hoping said daughter takes to biking and hockey. Knowing my luck it'll be something more expensive like horses.
The mrs wants to go camping for her birthday, she'll be around 32 weeks gone at that time. Cant imagine sharing a tent with a hormone fueled rage machine and a fluffy dog. Should be interesting!
Jolmes - you need a 2nd tent to escape to I reckon. I hadn't considered how we'd arrange camping with a dog (ours is small and fluffy too - the dog, not the wife).
Rage machine is s good description.
I got some very odd treatment when my wife was pregnant, particularly the first time.
I think it's a combination of hormones, stress on her body, and worries/stress about the whole situation.
Normal service resumed? Well she has been a lot less illogical since, but in all honesty I think her somewhat warped perceptions during our first pregnancy have taken their toll on our relationship in the long term. Good luck.
Now being told off for buying an impractical car!!
We have managed everything we need in a Yaris. (Little G is almost 2 now) including weekends away and luggage/pushchairs, etc etc.
Can't see how a large saloon car is "impractical"
joebristol - hopefully I'll have the new car by then and can sleep in there. She can keep the dog and airbed to herself. Last time, the dog stole my spot when I went to use the facilities, trying to move a 60lb sleeping dog was out of the question.
Jolmes - what car are you getting?
That's a fair size dog to move / share a tent with! Is it a lab or something like that? Ours only weighs about 7kgs / 15lbs. She'd probably grumble, but not too much trouble to shift! Certainly easier than the pregnabeast in my bed at home.
Hopefully getting an Hyundai i40 estate so plenty of room in the back for me to stretch out in and she's an Old English Sheepdog.
Sounds ideal. Wouldn't fancy having a disagreement on sleeping space with a large dog like that lol. If Molly comes Camping she can sleep in her crate otherwise god knows what she'd get up to. Sneaky dog would be eating something she shouldn't no doubt.
We've had 3 little monsters in just over 4 years and to be fair she's been different with each one, from normalish to completely batshit crazy and all levels of irrational, emotional, loving, touchy feely, don't come near me and lunacy in between.
There's basically nothing you can do other than carry on and believe that she'll be back to pre-pregnancy "normality" at some point.
jekkyl - Member
the good news is she won't ever be the same woman again.
Like throwing a welly up deansgate
One day overdue on baby so far...... how boring this is getting!
This is the right time to have the "are you sure it's mine conversation". It is an opportunity missed if you don't
We had a few friends and family go early (including extremely so) so we were well prepared in case ours came early.
We were not prepared for them to come late. Good lord is that a frustrating time! Never has ten days seemed to take quite so long in our case. My wife hated the feeling of her maternity leave ticking away and the barrage of people asking "haven't you had that baby yet?". You have my sincere sympathies, and I hope they arrive sooner rather than later!
deviant - Member
Can't stand the 'hormones' argument as an excuse for crappy female behavior...and yet us blokes seem to let it slide, funnily enough it doesn't seem to work both ways and if a man is aggressive, violent and wants to hump everything in sight due to testosterone we're being unreasonable....you can't have it both ways ladies....we were born with brains that can think and reason and will if you put your mind to it override 'hormones' so stop acting like idiots (men and women) and blaming 'hormones'....pathetic.
I tend to point out to my wife that her hormonal outbursts only ever seem directed at me, and not any of her friends. Funny how they're controllable with some targets and not others.
It's usually 50/50 as to whether that fuels the fire or dampens it 😉
Top tip? Always keep the car at least half full. Telling my in labour wife while en route to the hospital that I needed to stop for fuel because otherwise the fuel needle was so far in the red we might not get there was not my finest moment.
Good replies!
Bags are packed, the car is fuelled, baby seat is fitted in the car and the pram is in the boot (although we probably won't need that at the start).
We've tried massage, going on long walks, eating curry / pineapple / spicy food / raspberry leaf tea etc. The wife is rubbing different oils on the bump etc and the midwife did a sweep yesterday and said it's 'favourable'.
Grrrrr, just cone out baby! Don't want to be in hospital on xmas day ideally....
Grrrrr, just cone out baby!
Will a future family portrait look like this?
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Mine is just about to hit the 37 weeks. No mood swings, no hormonal randomness, just still caring and lovely. Even encouraging me to go out and ride my bikes (once I'm over my lurgi). In fact she encouraged me to stay home and watch Star Wars whilst she went out to do the big Christmas shop. This is why I'm going to marry that girl!:)
^^^ what are you waiting for, she's a keeper 🙂
Our first was 2 weeks late. UK system for delivery date gives earlier "due date" than that used in Europe.
Baby will be along soon enough don't worry about !
We are standing by. Christmas Baby 😉 my ex-SIL was born on 25th - Noelene
Not long for us either, bag packed, baby seat in car. All good though, apart from I get a b011ocking if I forget my phone at home 😳
Had our baby - had to go in 12 days overdue for induction. Actually just needed the waters breaking and nothing else - from start to finish five and dusted in about 5 hours.
Wifey has mellowed out immeasurably and life with her is much better again. I'm not a fan of babies (and in fact had never held one by choice). However having your own baby is just about the best thing ever. Blown away by feelings for the baby - even when having to stay up to 4am trying to get her to sleep a few days back.
Already beginning to get into a bit of a routine so no getting about 5 hours sleep a night - which is much better than 40 mins one of the first nights.
Wonderful news ! My first was 12 days over too, he/she must have been very dry skinned ? I am not a baby person either much prefer them when they become little people.
Enjoy, it feels like a battle sometimes but its definitely worth it.
Give the bike a good lube you'll not be riding it much for a while,
She's not too bad because the waters hadn't broken until the hospital did it, then she came out so quick. Has got a bit of dry skin round her neck, but the midwife isn't worried.
Waiting to see if I can get a locker at work - going to start commuting again a bit in the bike on non-customer appointment days. Keep the legs ticking over that way - plus if I cycle I can leave the house later than if I drive.
Going to be booking in a BPW uplift day in April and try to do a few night rides in the time up tibtgen and maybe a CwmCarn day too. Just when it fits in round the baby care.
Baby and wife will cone first over everything else though.
Thought I'd update this topic 7 months on.
Life with baby is generally good - I've insisted I have one evening a week to do something sport related to chill out, but I'm home every other night and don't go out much on weekends on my own during the day very often (occasionally bike trip negotiated every few months though).
Baby and wife going pretty well - we've lucked out with an incredibly easy to look after baby so far. Work limits my sleep more than Eva does - she often sleeps from 7pm until 6.30am ish.
Still getting some biking in - Wednesday night is Ride night, although when the dark nights kick in that will swap to hockey training most of the time.
Getting my cycling fitness back a bit from commuting just to get some miles on a bike. Otherwise useless car time satnin traffic becomes productive - taking an 8.5 mile route to and from work when I have time - 4.5 miles diretly when in a rush.
Only issue is the wife is now talking about trying for a 2nd baby.....
Only issue is the wife is now talking about trying for a 2nd baby.....
My maths says that b+1 = n+1
Already got 3 bikes (one new this year) and I get enough grief for that....think I'm happy with number of bikes as have a racer, a hardtail and a FS enduro.....
