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She doesn't wear any rings, never has really. I have no way of obtaining a size for a ring.
Pondering buying the stone, and proposing with that, and then taking her somewhere nice to have the ring made to her liking and size.
Would that work or will I be hung out to dry on mumsnet?
Buy one that looks the right size. Most good jewellers will be able to re-size to fit..
what I did:
while mademoiselle is sleeping like a tranquillised hog, sneak your pinky finger up her ring
finger and note at which point your finger is matched for diameter.
Er, if she doesn't wear rings, don't buy a ring.
<cynical b'stard mode>depends how normal she is, she may "expect" the finished article exactly to her dream ring - you may get the stone wrong, wrong colour ring, wrong size -then when her weight changes it wont fit and it will be your fault...<cynical b'stard mode>
however i like your style it's a good option i think. don't do the "stand in ring" thing though.
haribo starmix FTW
accepted practise these days is to buy a nice-but-cheap ring, in a size that's a bit too big, propose with that, then sort out the 'proper' ring a a later date.
it's a bit less romantic, but that's how everyone seems to do it these days.
Er, if she doesn't wear rings, don't buy a ring.
Trust me, she wants this ring.
meh had same issue just used one of my rings and we measured up at the later date.
if its the right girl it wont matter 😉
She doesn't wear any rings, never has really
Might go badly then. Why not propose with something she will like?
Pointless consumerism unless you really buy into all that stone/significance stuff.
Novelty ring for doing the deed. The gesture is far more important than the actual item of jewellery.
She can choose real ring after, if she wants one.
while mademoiselle is sleeping like a tranquillised hog, sneak your pinky finger up her ring
😯
Might go badly then. Why not propose with something she will like?
Pointless consumerism unless you really buy into all that stone/significance stuff.
She definitely wants a ring...even I can get that hint.
@cb propose with something, not a full on engagement ring or even a ring at all perhaps something with a fun element, then go shopping together. Delighted to say my second wife believed strongly we should chose the ring together (and did hours and hours of research on stones and insisted we bought wholesale 🙂 ) thats so much better than the "hit and hope" of us blokes going into a high street store and hoping we get it right
Edit: shops are used to this, go in advance or call and give them the budget then they can show rings without discussing price with your fiance 🙂
Don't worry about the ring size as any jeweller will be able to resize. However do have the balls to choose the ring yourself. It really isn't that hard. If she doesn't like it then that tells you something about her. The whole idea is that you are meant to put the effort in.
I took an educated guess but made sure I bought from a jeweller who would resize for me. It helped that said jeweller also made the ring in the first place so I was confident it would be a good resize job too.
Ok then. Clearly there is a market for a novelty and cheap 'stand-in' ring before the proper engagement ring then.
Something adjustable 😉
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I proposed without a ring, we then went and chose one together a week or so later...
Jubilee clip with a shiney bead glued on.
3 seconds! THREE SECONFS!
Am I right in saying that it's easy to reduce ring size, but not to enlarge?
Buy her a pair of shoes.
At least you know the size.
Buy her a pair of shoes.
At least you know the size.
No way, not another pair of bl**dy shoes.
Am I right in saying that it's easy to reduce ring size, but not to enlarge?
Yes, but from what I was told, a good jeweller can do either.
They just melt the ring, cut it and add in new slice of gold to widen a ring....
Best message stoner about that oneAm I right in saying that it's easy to reduce ring size, but not to enlarge?
Mrs danandem here- from a lady's point of view I'd say get a ring. I never wore one (or any other jewellery) before hubby proposed was delighted he'd chosen one for me - one he proposed with was so huge it fitted my thumb so had to go back to be resized but wasn't a problem. I knew he was going to propose on holiday but the ring was a surprise (I thought we would be choosing one afterwards)
3 seconds! THREE SECONFS!
😀
Good for all sorts of bodges. I've got a 2nd bottle cage lashed on with them. Solid
If you can't choose a ring together (which is what I did) a few friends have mine have bought a cheap ring with the promise of buying the real thing the following weekend.
http://www.jonrichard.com/rings-c16/jon-richard-cubic-zirconia-engagement-ring-set-p19426/s21320
GF told me if I ever proposed with a ring she might say no, however if I proposed with a Juliana Furtado and a Newfoundland puppy she would say yes...
Her brother just proposed to his other half with an empty box and a note in saying they'd pick a ring together, she was super happy he just proposed.
Unless she's pregnant and from a religious family why bother? 🙂
This...
I proposed without a ring, we then went and chose one together a week or so later..
stevied - Member
while mademoiselle is sleeping like a tranquillised hog, sneak your pinky finger up her ring
Thats how i read it as well !!
Get her drunk, then measure the diameter of her finger with a bit of dental floss while she's out cold.
proposing must have made her whole week Stoner?
I got a very cheap ring as a token gift to actually propose with, and then said we could go and look round jewelers and find one she actually liked.
She's got to wear it (hopefully) for the rest of her life so it helps if she likes it!
Bear in mind though that this route means she knows how much you're spending!
Also bear in mind that you will be subject to weeks of indecision about 'this one' or 'that one'!
I proposed without a ring, we then went and chose one together
Me too. My logic (fortunately accepted by the bride) was that there was no point choosing something I liked - she was going to be the one wearing it, so let her choose.
Needs some token you can use in place of a ring tho. For complicated in-joke reasons, I proposed with a toy aeroplane.
Buy one too big and get a bit of plastic tube you can tuck behind it so she can wear it on the day.
I proposed in cambridge and we spent an hour trying to find a jeweller who could fit a size adjuster to it which was annoying but she was in la la land.
sizing takes about 2 weeks if you need to get it done later, worth negotiating with the jeweller to ensure it is included.
If you buy from a high street jeweller like Fraser hart they just swap them out for one the right size.
+1 for the cheap stand-in then go out and let her pick one later idea.
FTW I found a cheapo (30 quid) one from HSamuels, checked stock, went to pick it up and none there. Bit peeved with the salesperson's attitute - email to group CEO, got £60 worth of vouchers to help with the "proper" ring.
Bought myself a watch with the vouchers, and went to a decent handmade jeweller with her.
She'll say she'll treasure the stand-in ring for ever - this is bollocks as you will pick something she thinks is hideous.
You're a man therefore you have no idea what she wants. Just keep repeating this to yourself 8)
Thats how i read it as well !!
the subtlety of a well-placed carriage return....
ahwiles - Memberaccepted practise these days is to buy a nice-but-cheap ring, in a size that's a bit too big, propose with that, then sort out the 'proper' ring a a later date.
it's a bit less romantic, but that's how everyone seems to do it these days.
Really? That's utter madness.
I suspect the more grown-up, "life's not a Disney princess story" way would be to propose - then buy a ring.
IMHO OP would do well to separate the whole 'best day of your life' part of marriage from the real world 'rest of your life' part - too many people get all caught up with having a wedding and seem to forget it's about staying together the rest of your life, and in my experience the more expensive and over the top the engagement/wedding the more flaky the marriage.
Propose and then buy a ring together at a later date (if she says yes).
IMHO OP would do well to separate the whole 'best day of your life' part of marriage from the real world 'rest of your life' part - too many people get all caught up with having a wedding and seem to forget it's about staying together the rest of your life, and in my experience the more expensive and over the top the engagement/wedding the more flaky the marriage.
Agreed, 10 years of being together already should help a bit. 🙂
Does she have pintrest?
Another vote for proposing with something temporary (or even without a ring) then going and choosing a ring together. When we got engaged, I took my OH for a surprise trip to Brighton and we spent the afternoon going round the lanes looking at rings (before going back to buy the very first one we'd looked at).
Hula hoop
OP ... think your first idea it great.
It's what I did
And got a little adjustable diamond holder ring type thing for the going down on one knee bit .... see below
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(if you push the ring side together the clasp expands )
Then you can get the stone mounted as is the lady's want and make a day of that design process.
I did the deed on a friday night and explained that we are going to get the ring designed tomorrow.
After we had that design meeting on the saturday I then surprised her with a posh lunch with her best friend.
Good luck .... and remember on the day/night to allow plenty of time for her to ring her mum/sis/ best friend to tell them the news.