Yes people can change their opinions, probably a difficult concept for yourself.
You dug up something Drac said 2 years ago?
Very odd isn't it.
Yes people can change their opinions, probably a difficult concept for yourself.
Why would it be a difficult concept for me?
Very odd isn't it.
Not really, it's the thread the op was referring to.
Not really, it's the thread the op was referring to.
So you decided to hunt down my comment out of that thread?
Why would it be a difficult concept for me?
As I've seen you many times bone pick people, well me for one, and it's tedious.
not worth a response really
pot/kettle.
Come on guys, kiss and make up. On the cheek will be fine.
What a bizarre thread.
Come on guys, kiss and make up. On the cheek will be fine.
Not in the shower though.
although I did get a flaming from some on here when I mentioned that I joined my girls in a shower after swimming lesson (when they were 6 IIRC).
Iirc wasn't there also some accidental slappage with a swinging appendage?
I hope to never stop showing affection to my son and daughter by hugging them. I kiss my daughter on the cheek or head. But I would never kiss her on the lips. She's 21 and would be appalled if I tried. But this thread shows that there are very different cultural norms, even within the same country.
These days, I generally avoid kissing anyone but my partner on the lips.
I'm happy to kiss, embrace & hug [almost] anyone, but try and restrict kissing to a peck on the cheek. Personal boundaries and and all that.
I did use to kiss my daughter on the lips though when she was young. I can't remember exactly when it stopped but it was 'pre-teen' era I think. It was never made an issue of and we still hug now and she's in her mid twenties! I hope she felt she grew up with lots of love & affection.
My understanding is the origins of kissing come from 'mouth feeding' and like breast feeding, these things have existed as a form of 'intimacy' between a parent & child forever and are part of the bonding and nurturing process. Sadly it is only in recent times that some societies have become hung up about them.
My daughter is a teacher in Spain now and she commented on the difference between UK and Spain in term of being tactile and embracing between parent, child and teacher etc.
We are in danger of losing something quite important I think, that should really be a non issue: Like being in 'the nuddy' around your kids when they are growing up, they may/will generally let you know when they are no longer comfortable with it in their own way.
My daughter is a teacher in Spain now and she commented on the difference between UK and Spain in term of being tactile and embracing between parent, child and teacher etc.
I do really feel for early years teachers who have young kids crying after falling over/missing mum/whatever, and they are "not allowed" to offer them a simple reassuring cuddle to fix it.
I do really feel for early years teachers who have young kids crying after falling over/missing mum/whatever, and they are "not allowed" to offer them a simple reassuring cuddle to fix it
On a tangent slightly but it does remind me of *some* kids who have gone through the 'Public School System' and grow up emotionally detached.
Kids need love and affection. The days of just breeding male heirs to one's estate are hopefully coming to a close.
Iirc wasn't there also some accidental slappage with a swinging appendage?
LOL yes, but that was accidental (and IIRC the reason for the thread) but I was genuinely surprised at the time that anyone found it odd to shower with my girls at that age.
Two years on they are able to shower themselves properly and have been freed from the fear of slapping tallywhackers.
I do really feel for early years teachers who have young kids crying after falling over/missing mum/whatever, and they are "not allowed" to offer them a simple reassuring cuddle to fix it.
My son's teachers would hug the kids - not sure at what age that went on to.
I wonder about naked but think kissing my son on the lips odd - have never kissed a bloke in that way. Never kissed my sister on the lips either - maybe I'll try that next time I see her and get some to record the results.
fear of slapping tallywhackers
Bet you the fear still exists even if the risk has reduced 😀
accidental slappage with a swinging appendage
#humblebrag
Never kissed my sister on the lips either - maybe I'll try that next time I see her and get some to record the results.
You're going to kiss your sister and then 'get some'?
I thought East Anglia had modernised but clearly not......
My lad is almost 4 and I still kiss him on the lips, don't really see the big deal. I also have the occasional bath with him and his current favourite game is having a wee in the same toilet to see who can do the most-one day he'll understand my joke about not crossing streams.
I feel I have a better relationship with him than with my own dad, who I would never think of as being a loving parent, despite being a great dad.
Perverts the lot of you! A firm handshake and limited conversation is all a Northern child requires.
Didn't do me any harm..... unless you listen to my missus and she will explian what a cold, non empathy driven b*****d i am with a swinging brick for a heart. I believe these are fine qualities for navigating life.
I kiss my daughter on the lips a couple of times a day, she's three though so occasionally it's nose, chin.
At some point it'll become awkward so we'll stop, people who think it's sexual though are ****ing odd.
Like being in 'the nuddy' around your kids when they are growing up, they may/will generally let you know when they are no longer comfortable with it in their own way.
I have no recollection of this, but my mum tells me that the day she stopped getting dressed in front of me was the day I asked her why she had two tummies.
My lad is almost 4 and I still kiss him on the lips, don't really see the big deal. I also have the occasional bath with him
Mines four in Feb and we still have baths together occasionally. He loves it. My father was a dick and I don't recall him ever showing affection either. "Big cuddle me" is a regular request from Funk Jr. He does wipe his mouth sometimes after I've kissed him though 🙁
Lol at Cougars comment
With kids,[s] we've always kept it no lips, I guess pre-empting the issue arising as they grow older. We have had conversations a few times about it, explaining the difference between kisses on cheek and lips. They seem to get it, so [/s]a non-issue really.
People really need to get a grip.
It's kissing your own kids we are talking about.
Not some random kids in the park 🙄
It's kissing your own kids we are talking about.
I wouldn't kiss my eldest son on the lips, that's for sure. 😉
I do really feel for early years teachers who have young kids crying after falling over/missing mum/whatever, and they are "not allowed" to offer them a simple reassuring cuddle to fix it
Same with some children in care. Thanks to the paedos, now some kids in care can go through their entire youth without so much as a cuddle from someone to let them know they are loved.
My son's teachers would hug the kids - not sure at what age that went on to.I wonder about naked
Maybe a word with the headteacher would clear up the doubts ?
