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We the wrightys are "as one"
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Similar issue when a mate and his wife were invited to a wedding but explicitly not their son.. they were not happy, and nor would I have been.
You two are both selfish arses / trolls too then! 😉
Just not good form to try and split a family up like that. I wouldn't dream of going to a family wedding without my OH or son.
Think this would have been an non issue if the SIL had said something along the lines of we'd like you all to come and we'd like to contribute £xx towards your costs of going.
Fair point, but that's the diplomatic approach. The honest approach for her is to say that she wants her sister at her sons wedding, and you just aren't as important. That may seem unfair, but it's probably the truth. If I could have afforded it I'd have paid for my brother to be at my wedding, but not his girlfriend. And I'd have no qualms about that. We are, for example, paying for my MIL to come over and see our new baby, but not our FIL. He'll be over in a few months when we can afford it. Circumstances dictate.
I wouldn't dream of going to a family wedding without my OH or son.
Really? What if you could only afford for just you to go, and it was a sibling?
Isn't this an episode of "Don't tell the Bride"?
Anyway - like Stoaty said; if there is a plan for what to do with a 4 year old on a 12 hour flight and in non-child friendly Vegas plus there will be other kids then fine. Otherwise offer to take time off and look after the lad = it's your job and it'll be good for you and son.
If this is all about excluding you = then you should be a family unit and your SO should see that. We L's are as one like the Wrighty's!
Given that wedding's should be either private affairs = in which case just go off and do it but don't split the family by inviting some & not others
or
public declamations of a couples love = have it at home and invite as many as you want
Vegas doesn't seem to be ticking the boxes. Still there's nothing to cause a bust up like a wedding!
So talk to BIL and ask why SO and son are invited and you're not. Let them know the hurt & pain their wedding is causing 🙄
I think it greedy of people to have weddings on the other side of the planet, as most of ur mates wolnt be able to go. It know a couple that were broken up by the debit the wedding cost...how i lold and lold and lold
If you're the kind of mate that laughs at your mates' debt-inspired divorce, it sounds like you were the kind of mate they were trying to avoid by having the wedding abroad in the first place! 😛
If this is for real, did it not occur to you that they might be a bit financially stretched themselves at the moment - what with paying for a stupid wedding in Vegas?
I dont believe they are paying for the wedding, their son is doing that.
The wedding of a minor relative of my OH in Vegas - my idea of hell!
Take time off work, keep the sprog with you and do some earthy nature based stuff (camping, visit to zoo etc) and leave OH to go to Vagas free of the ball & chain of dragging around a kid through that godforsaken place. Guaranty the whole family will have a better time.
I won't expect any of my aunts/uncles/cousins to travel for my wedding, and they'd only have to travel halfway across England, let alone continents!
don't people get married in vegas to get away from the family?
konabunny - Member
I think it greedy of people to have weddings on the other side of the planet, as most of ur mates wolnt be able to go. It know a couple that were broken up by the debit the wedding cost...how i lold and lold and lold
If you're the kind of mate that laughs at your mates' debt-inspired divorce, it sounds like you were the kind of mate they were trying to avoid by having the wedding abroad in the first place!
if they hadent wasted money on the wedding they wouldnt have got divorced, i didnt like them much any way they were my girlfreinds freinds really 🙂
jam bo - Member
don't people get married in vegas to get away from the family?
yet its meant to be about family, ironic really...
yet its meant to be about family
is it?
jam bo - Member
yet its meant to be about family
is it?
Traditionally its about family
This reminds me of that thread about a year ago when somebody posted that his neighbour was cutting down trees in a disputed area of their garden, everybody (yes, I do mean you, TJ) got worked up and then the OP revealed he was making an allegory of the Israel/Palestine situation.
So is this the IMF bailing out Greece and Greece spending the money on a beer and fags?
No its about my sister in law being tactless.
Are you sure its not about Vince Cable? And his stance towards the unions?
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Weddings - ban them !
@bigyinn - have to say that I too felt this had troll written all over but now, gotta agree with a chuck on those above - take the time out and spend it with the little fella. Then, take him with you to meet mum off the plane - little 'welcome home' card that he's made with your help - worth it's weight in gold, to all of you 🙂
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We the wrightys are "as one"
+1Similar issue when a mate and his wife were invited to a wedding but explicitly not their son.. they were not happy, and nor would I have been.
Brought a wry smile to my face did that (not having a go, not at all). Funny how weddings bring out the best and worst in folk...
20 years ago or so, a great mate and his G/F headed off to StLucia to marry because they 'did not want the hassle' of a UK wedding. Fair enough, though it did leave his parents here - his mum cannot fly due to inner problems - causing major upset. We, their mates were a [i]little[/i] put out as well but, ho-hum.
10 years later, i'm getting married. There is no space for kids at the sit down meal - it was tight getting my niece and nephew in. We politely inform all friends that kids cannot be there for the day do but, are welcome at night. With only one exception, all parent went 'wahoo - baby sitter sorted - party time'. The friend above, now with 2 toddlers, insisted they only came as a family unit. I did remind him his parents were invited to the evening do so could enjoy the grandkids for the day, then bring them at night. Still not happy - he and his wife were getting a little arsey, reminding me of our friendship and how upset they were to not be invited as a unit at which point I gently lost my rag - Should have seen his face when I politely reminded him how he'd gone about things on his own wedding......
You think this is bad, wait until someone doesn't get invited to your kids birthday, oh the dramas. There are some mums in my village who can show this forum what real flouncing is all about.
The wrightys "are one" when it comes to mum and dad going off on hOls for a week without them it's never gonna happen, but an invite to a wedding for the day where we can have one night on our own is a little different and we're gonna lap it up!!!