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Its poo at the moment. Partner self-destructing with anxiety and depression and I am having to distance myself more and more to stay sane. In fact sitting at his place of work while he meets his boss. I am not hopeful of a positive outcome and expect constant tears and fury for the foreseeable future. 🙁
On the positive side am booked in to go to Afan at easter for a bikey weekend.
Jools you dont want a frost!!! thats what did for my ankle!
Yeah but hard frozen ground is the next best thing to dry summer trails!
Sorry to hear of those having a bad start, but after a totally shoite couple of years, 2013 is shaping up ok so far for me. All my positives are pretty much the opposite of things which made the last couple of years so crappy... Settling into a new job which is going v well, just bought a house, only managed to ride sporadically during the winter but now got my mojo back properly - perhaps influenced by the mtbing girl I have been out with a couple of times 😉 So bring on the spring, the sunshine and dusty trails...
All good, well was a bit bad last week when the laser in out printer packed up and the manufacturer said "oh your a week out of warrenty!", now that may not sound like much but as the laser costs £40,000 and would essentially come out of my pocket i was panicked to say the least, fortunately we worked out that the sign off wasnt until the end of feb so we were in fact covered! Phew!, Oh and her indoors is harassing me to move to a bigger house... 🙁 but all things considered its great at the mo!
Mostly I am still writing the date as 2012 on things and wasting time on the internets instead of working. Hopefully the new sort of cheese I invented will take off and instigate world peace - peace with one another and within oneself.
Had two nasty bouts of flu/virus since December but I'm getting spliced next month and have plane tickets for NY, Botswana and a two week surfing trip to Croyde.
Sorry to hear the troubles that some are going through. Positive vibes to you all from this corner.
Things are pretty decent for me and mine. My kids are just ace, both at primary school now, learning stuff, making friends, jumping around and generally inspiring the **** out of me.
My work is good, I've got a few extra staff key positions and its starting to make a difference. My wife's work is going crazy at the mo but she's coping, just. We're about to start on a big overhaul of our house next week so things are going to be up in the air for a while.
Hardly done any riding, other than commuting, for the last couple of months. Will be treating myself to a new mtb in march so crossing my fingers for a dry spring.
trailofdestruction - where is that?
Average for me. My Auntie died but it was the end of a long fight with cancer so expected and an end to the suffering. A silver lining was getting to see some family I don't normally see, especially my brother who came over from Afghanistan. Work has been so-so, making lots of stupid mistakes that I shouldn't be, but a trip to Vegas at the beginning of January was good. Riding has been crap in January as expected, but I seem to have found fresh motivation to hit the gym more so have lost a stone since end of November. Looks like I might be fit enough to race by March 🙂
Mixed bag here but mostly positive:
Not so good: watching my family dispute my Gran's Will has been disappointing and been messed around a bit at work which is frustrating. The cold weather hasn't helped my enthusiasm for cycling either.
Bit more good: Plantar Fasciitis on the mend and slowly getting back to running. Me and the Missus have just been approved to have fertility treatment so after nearly 3 years of trying and investigating things might just be looking up!
Not a great start to 2013 - continues from poor 2012.
Work as a self-employed consultant working mainly with smaller charities has been almost non-existent as national and local government funding cuts come through.
Very elderly Mum who lives over 200 miles away is deteriorating rapidly, not helped by St James Hospital in Leeds not X-raying her arm when she fell badly at the end of December. Found she had had a broken arm for over 3 weeks when she fell over again later in January and was treated as she should have been done initially.
Relationship status is frustrating to say the least.
Not been out on a bike, apart from around town, for ages.
On the plus side the charities I am involved with on a voluntary basis, including being a trustee of two, have provided me with lots of things to keep me occupied and challenged, including negotiating a merger of two charities, business planning, and yesterday training 15 young people who are thinking of setting up their own business about marketing.
Got a ski trip to Tignes to look forward to in March, and have entries for the HONC, Forest of Dean Sportive and the LVIS Audax round Bristol to look forward to!
Best wishes and good luck to all those who are having a crap year!
Maybe we should consult oldgit for some advice on making our lives perfik??
Just at an age where I'm happy with my lot.
Don't need or want to think about a career, happy with what I'm doing.
Family all good and put first.
Don't want for anything, realized that 'things' don't bring happiness, but what you do does?
Seem to be riding better than I have in decades
No credit HP blah blah blah
I'm like some weird right wing hippy.
5 weeks in and i've had a week in Egypt, picked up some photo's of a topless lady when her photo's feel from her hands at my feet(Boots photo developing section) and stopped a drunk lady from falling into a deep fast flowing river, then ensuring she got home safely. Also done a Apple Tree pruning course and finally getting round to Printing and publishing my photo's to Market.
Another trip already planned for April, so all in all 2013 is going well.
Sorry to read others aren't having such a a great one, i've been there before for years and offer my sincere best wishes to you.
[u]Upsides[/u]
Survived our first Californian 'winter' - actually colder than you'd think in a single pained, mainly glass, non-insulated house.
Been skiing twice and going again this weekend.
Still finding more local singletrack and have a bunch of riders who ride 3 x a week, even if it is at ungodly hours of the morning.
[u]Downsides[/u]
6000 miles from old friends
Had to wash my bike (first time in 10 months).
$300 heating bill for the month (see above).
People speak funny.
Guilt from reading the posts of those who have not had such a great start - I hope it improves for you.
Good here so far - relocated back to Cumbria with good new jobs for us both, much much shorter commutes, plus another baby on the way. Just need our house sale to go through so we can buy a place of our own up here and move out of the in-laws.
Started bad;
Started off with a dose of manflu, bedridden for 3 days of sweats and aches.....
Mum died on 2nd Jan
Dad has had a couple of operations to allow food to pass into stomach. First diagnosis was a tumour, samples taken and not cancerous 😆
2nd consultant says it is a hernia not a tumour 😆 Can only eat liquidised food for the foreseeable future
Wife is in bed with womens version of manflu ❗
Wife may have to have ops on her toes, possibly removal 😕
Kids are good
Grand kids are good except for youngest who has an extreme intolerance to dairy products which requires lots af label reading before buying food for her 🙄
I have been out on my bike at every opportunity 😆
OT, but can anyone get on the main forum overveiw page?
Well I thought it was going a bit crap, tbh, but reading these has caused me to take stock and rethink.
Work's crap, haven't been riding in months, house renos are over budget and beyond schedule, have been struggling with mild depression, and worried that I'm dumping it all on the OH.
OTH, I have a job that pays well for only using 20% of my potential, the house renos will be good, the depression hasn't been bad enough to see anyone about it, and the OH is a star who's been keeping me sane.
Sorry to hear of so many bad starts to the year. Ours has been ok in reality but can be best summed up by the words phlegm, snot, paracetamol based medicine and antibiotics. Between me and the kids we seem to have had a constant supply of the first two and consumption of the other two.
If anyone has a commercial application for snot please let me know as tissues are expensive.
Good thanks. Can't complain.
Started off well enough - TUPEd over to new job, except that as well as keeping the old conditions we had a few spankingly good ones added in, Wee Ox is doing well after months of pre- and post-birth health worries.
Then we got caught up in the Edinburgh Council Statutory Notice scandal. Currently looking at a final bill more than 30x that of the initial estimate, and then they have the balls to add on a 15% "management" fee. Quite what they've "managed", other than to systematically cock up the entire process, I'm not altogether sure. We're left in the unenviable position of either having our entire life savings eaten up by the financial cost of fighting it, or having our entire life savings and all of the equity in the flat eaten up by just paying the bill.
We're out, buggering off abroad, leaving this corrupt shitehole of a country to find what will invariably turn out to be another corrupt shitehole. A change is as good as a rest, though.
-ve Last year my work hours had been cut to 2-and-a-half days a week, which I just cannot afford to live on. Each month I spend between two and four hundred quid more than I'm bringing in. This year started off by being told this will not be changing.
+ve But at least I am still there! Others aren't. Some income is still better than none.
-ve Not getting anywhere with job interviews.
+ve But have started new (new enough to be still exciting) retraining Open Yooni course.
-ve Have ruptured myself another hernia.
+ve Touch wood, I am controlling the depression and tension.
-ve Have not quite managed to quit smoking yet.
+ve But have quit seven or eight times already this year!
-ve Have had two punctures in the last two outings on the bike. One leading to a disturbing discovery that I had neither spare tube nor puncture repair kit. The resultant seven-mile bike ride home on the flat has utterly destroyed the tyre.
+ve But, despite the weather, have already managed to do more cycling this year than I did over the whole last six months of last year.
-ve Discovered I am SOOOO not bike-fit.
+ve But have rediscovered the joy of it, despite the very wheezy ups and very mincey downs.
+ve And met an old friend in the street. Had quick catch-up chat, and on parting got a very pleasantly surprising, larynx-rattling, eye-popping kiss farewell with a hope for a future.
So there has been ups and downs. But that's life, isn't it. You've just got to ride them.
Positives...we've only had to do the school run by car once (because of Beaver Scout event), even through the snow me & my & boys have commuted on the cargo bike. Work is busy.
Negatives...I've eaten to blimp status. Money is tight. I've got it in my head that I need a Salsa Fargo. Wife was told yesterday that She's being made redundant. 🙁
Work wobbled a bit, but back on course now.
GF wobbled a bit, but back on course now.
Two bouts of illness (viruses) in 5 weeks.
Car needs a new clutch.
Completely lost my cycling mojo. A few years ago I couldn't imagine a time when I wouldn't be [i]racing[/i], let alone riding. Now I could quite happily sell all my bikes.
Just booked a holiday. My first in 8 years.
I've had a lot worse starts to years.
Iolo, I'm in NWales mate, Llandudno. email me KevinevsATyahooDOTcoDOTuk if you feel up to a ride sometime. Even if it's just a pootle about and a beer or a coffee.
oh I'm going to have to write something, aren't i?
Well, left my old job through redundancy at the end of the year and set up my own web development company. Getting lots of good work in the pipeline so it looks like I made the right decision.
I now have a date for some surgery, April 9th, which is scary but all good. Gonna be useless for a couple of months and off the mountain bike for the rest of the year most likely. Might manage the road bike by October, hopefully!
So, all sorts going on but feeling really, really positive. 2013 is MY year.
Rachel
A tiny glimpse of light at the end of a very long tunnel offers hope. Am hoping to be accepted for voluntary work which I'm really excited about.
The scenery and landscape continue to feed my soul. 🙂
Mr overshoot your post turns me inside out mate .
I had a bad dose of Lyme disease that gave me an MS like condition for about a year, I feel I have had a very rare chance to experience what your wife has to live with day to day
I can honestly say I have no idea how she does it .
Tell her a random stranger off the net sends her some love.
Keep on keeping on chap.
I have stopped worrying about getting worried with things so in a way I guess things will get better for me.
Time to pull some birds ... boom boom!
p/s: life was shite for the past few years.
nonk - MemberMr overshoot your post turns me inside out mate .
I had a bad dose of Lyme disease that gave me an MS like condition for about a year, I feel I have had a very rare chance to experience what your wife has to live with day to day
I can honestly say I have no idea how she does it .
Tell her a random stranger off the net sends her some love.
Keep on keeping on chap.
I'll tell her don't you worry, glad your over it as I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
She has had Secondary Progressive MS (since 1986) sadly she doesn't really have good days, only less poor ones in the last 10 years 🙁
I got back from work @ 18:30 and she didn't want anything to eat just to go to bed (that in itself is a fairly physical undertaking and I'm a 6'3" lump and she's fairly slight, so god knows how others manage)
I'm not ashamed to admit feeling utterly helpless most of the time & having the odd cry to myself as cleaning her up after an "accident" is pretty degrading for both of us.
Upd followed by downs followed by ups followed by - well you get the idea!
My dad is slowly dying of cancer - which is very bad. 😥
Weekends spent visiting him in hospital - which can be depressing. 🙁
Weekends spent in hospital means i'm spending more time with my dad than i have done so for a long time! - which ironically is good! 😕
My kids are great - which is great! 😀
Mrs PE is about to start a new job - which is really great! 😀
Promotion on the horizon - which is nice! 😀
Haven't ridden my bike for a while due to weather and work - which is bad 😥
Hoping the year will even out at some point soon.
@Mr overshoot
Strong as ox the pair of you, I won't try saying owt to make it better just know that I ponder in disbelief at how couples like you manage.
Hat well and truly off.
Can't complain, nothing compared to the stuff some on here are going through. Finish school in June then Uni in September, excited about that.
Thoughts to all of you who are struggling.
I don't know if this makes it better or worse, but seeing a close friend deal with the diagnosis of an incurable brain tumour before Christmas, hearing about Spongebob, the suicide thread a few weeks back, and reading your travails, I have made the decision that I am refusing now to allow minutiae to get me down.
It's hard at times, I have a stressful job and I'm a stressy person anyway, and I have in the past allowed myself to get to some bleak places, but I don't have an ounce to carry compared to the burdens you have. I hope you all find the strength to keep on keeping on, and if in some small way, if it gives you a grain of comfort to know you have made my life a bit better by making me realise what I've got, I want to thank you for that.
A salutary reminder from a good guy.
Thanks for your offer Kevevs but just now riding a bike is the last thing I want to do.
Kevevs - Member
Iolo, I'm in NWales mate, Llandudno. email me KevinevsATyahooDOTcoDOTuk if you feel up to a ride sometime. Even if it's just a pootle about and a beer or a coffee.
Squadron?
Usual management crap at work,
but things are looking up....Morzine tomorrow..
I'll have to post something mainly because I'm having a very down day 🙁
In November 2012 I was diagnosed with and grade 3 brain tumour and undergone major brain surgery to remove the bulk of the tumour. Also been on a cocktail of drugs to keep me from having seizures and/or a stroke due to the surgery.
The year 2013 started with 6 weeks of daily intensive radiotherapy, I'm now coming to the end (3 days left) and feeling a bit under the weather and lost all my hair. Trying so hard to be positive but coping quite well, but just buying a new bike before I was diagnosed and only using it twice is hard not to get sad about. Also having my driving licence taken away (due to the surgery again) removes all that is left of my independence and I can't reapply for my licence for 6 months too 2 years after the operation.
On the positive side the wife (as always) has been great she is even going to shave her hair off too support the Brain Trust Charity who was very helpful and supportive to Suzie when we first found out, all friends have been fantastic and there for me all the way, work have been perfect and very supportive. Thank you to everyone for there support and words of encouragement, it has helped a lot. Also I've been out on my bike 2 times and it felt great.
I'm still planing on taking part in the hit the north (2 days after finishing radiotherapy), even if its only 1 lap (as long as its not snowing or icey) and get back riding my bike as soon as possible.
Also we was half way through getting a mortgage and I received a text (yes a test) literally saying "your mortgage application has expired please reapply" no warning saying you application is about to expire, so now we can't get a mortgage, and not to sure what we are going to do... But all I know the coop bank is s**t and have changed there ethos. They was dragging there feet and this should have gone through before I was diagnosed...
I'm having good day/week and things are pretty positive atm. It's been a mixed year though. I'd been pretty stressed/down the last few months of 2012. I was constantly ill, avoiding friends, wasn't happy at home (despite the fact that my wife is amazing) I woke up one day in the first week of January and realised that I was suffering from depression. I suffered with it once before in 2009. That day I called crisis/gp etc...... I really don't want meds or counselling if I can help it but realised that I need to change a few things.
I've made several changes to my day to day routine including starting eating breakfast (daft but has made a huge difference to my energy levels), I've had a new bike and have resolved to ride at least once a week (I'd pretty much given up, and it was mtbing that helped to bring me out of my prior depression). Silly little things like that seem to have really helped, as has just talking to my wife when I'm worried about inane crap too! A month on and I'm feeling a lot happier, I'm starting to enjoy work again and most of the time it isn't a battle to get out of bed which is good.
I really feel for the people that are having a tough time of it at the minute. As others have said, stw is a great place to vent.
Afghan!
My year has been good so far. For much of last year i really thought i'd have to give up cycling completely but took a month off over xmas as a last resort to try and rest my injuries (from April 2012). Seems to have worked and i've rode more in the last month than all of last year combined, and i'm not in pain while doing it or after. Happy.
Home/family life is good. Job is stable and i'm in the good books with the bosses for a change.
And the icing on the cake? Four (yes 4!) new trail centres are well under construction here in sunny NI and due to open around springtime.
allthegear...2013 is MY year.
Mine too 😀
This time last year me and my wife were enjoying a quiet house after both our teenage kids leaving home, then a shit storm began that's still ongoing
Daughter returned home
Son returned home after splitting with girlfriend, bringing grandson with him
Dad died of cancer on 7th dec
Mother in law found out yesterday she has aggressive ovarian cancer
FFS
To all of you/us I can only say I am humbled and privileged to hear your stories. As silly as STW sometimes can be, I think everyone who reads this thread has nothing but compassion and (yes) love for all.