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ton · 2017-08-02T09:38:01Z

have you ever sat and though, how other people see you. in the last week, 3 people have commented to me how they see me. both my kids (26 and 20) are back at home. son is getting divorced, daughter broke up with boyfriend. we all sat down to talk about it, and at the end, both my kids told me that I don't seem to care much about it. I told them that I care but at their ages it is something not to worry about. life don't always turn out as planned. I had tried to make light of the situation, they told me that I always try to laugh things off. then last Wednesday, I got a phone call from the hospital, telling me that my mother had been taken in by ambulance. she has history of phoning for one at the drop of a hat. I mentioned this to the person on the end of the phone. when I got to the hospital, my mother was sat drinking tea, nothing more than a bout of stomach upset wrong with here. I was pretty annoyed, and told my mother this, and that she had to stop phoning at the drop of a hat. a woman heard our conversation and came over to tell me that she was the person I had spoken to on the phone. she then went on to tell me that I had sounded very cold and uncaring on the phone, towards my mother. I told he that I had been to the hospital a dozen times with my mother, with false alarms. then at work this morning, I was sat at my computer minding my own business, with a work mate serving a customer beside me. the customer was trying to pull everyone into his conversation, regarding a problem he had with some equipment. I carried on with what I was doing, so he turned to me and told me that he thought I was ignorant, for not answering him. I told him that I was not serving him, and that if I was I would have answered him. we then had a pretty heated conversation, with him telling me that he had always thought me ignorant. so in 2 weeks, I have been told that I am lighthearted and unserious, cold and uncaring, and ignorant. :|

perchypanther

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Posted : 03/08/2017 10:24 am

joolsburger

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Try not to worry too much about what other people think, unless that sort of thing bothers you, then do.

Posted : 03/08/2017 11:23 am

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OP, you can't help the way people feel about you or things that happen to them. Their feelings are their own, and they can't be wrong about that.

Consider your children if they were younger. Yesterday a child cried because I took the sock puppet away. I know it'll be forgotten about in 5 minutes, but not reassuring her would be heartless. Your children are 20 and 26, kids stop being kids but it would be nice if parents didn't stop being parents. It's quite likely you comforted your kids when they cried about strange things like the pudding being the wrong flavour, or mum not being back from work yet, why would you not comfort them now? It's a drop in the ocean from your perspective, but they're not old enough to realise it yet.

The customer, well, what do you expect if you're in a customer facing job?

Posted : 03/08/2017 11:36 am

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This thread is crying out for a 'Cupcake' tag.

Posted : 03/08/2017 11:50 am

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