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Mum , in 'support bullshit bubble' with Sis , except Sis works in a school of 400 plague carrying teens. So Mum and sis are all 'doing xmas' with the powerkite twins , who are just back from Uni ( which is fine as no-one in higher education can possibly carry Covid )
could do with not being laughed at by my colleague , she says stuff without thinking so far I have had to listen to.-
Incel Looser
Nonce ( I said I would have liked a daughter called Tily )
and today .- Xmas dinner for 1 watching Home Alone where you're the star
screw them , Im making a huge plate of pigs in blankets and roast potatoes
singletrackmind
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Screw them , I'm making a huge plate of pigs in blankets and roast potatoes
Is the correct answer 🙂
My brother is planning to move to Canada asap, and nothing about the current crisis has changed his mind. Parents. are getting on in years, which he’s never even mentioned – none of the rest of us will be able to afford the air fare to go see him, if it’s even possible. Feels like a big F U TBH.
Posting from Melbourne. A definite **** you to one side of our family.
Shame the other side has to suffer but our life is a million times better without the shit.
My brother is planning to move to Canada asap
My brother moved to Auckland about 15 years ago.
It's the best move he and his wife ever made, made mainly for positive job and lifestyle reasons. Some avoidance of family on both sides.
Was it selfish? Yes. Is it wrong? No, you've got to live the life you have and want. I'm jealous if I'm honest.
I'm not sure us moving to other end of UK from family is much less selfish.
My brother is planning to move to Canada asap, and nothing about the current crisis has changed his mind. Parents. are getting on in years, which he’s never even mentioned – none of the rest of us will be able to afford the air fare to go see him, if it’s even possible. Feels like a big F U TBH.
You sound a bit bitter / selfish yourself.
My brother is planning to move to Canada asap, and nothing about the current crisis has changed his mind. Parents. are getting on in years, which he’s never even mentioned – none of the rest of us will be able to afford the air fare to go see him, if it’s even possible. Feels like a big F U TBH.
Why should he live a life based on when his parents may die?
By your logic no-one would move a significant distance from home until their parents are dead and their siblings can afford to travel to their new location.
I’d be pleased for my brother/son/whatever if they moved to Canada.
As I always say to my other half (with her dysfunctional brother), you can pick your friends but you can’t pick your family.
Weddings, funerals and Christmas Day, the three occasions you can guarantee some form of uproar.
I'm not saying he's doing anything wrong per se, but it still feels shitty.
Thanks for the judgement and criticism though. I thought we were sharing things about our families we find difficult but clearly I shouldn't have bothered.
I’d be pleased for my brother/son/whatever if they moved to Canada.
I'm also pleased for him and I've told him so. It's more about the communication over it TBH.
By your logic no-one would move a significant distance from home until their parents are dead and their siblings can afford to travel to their new location.
Not what I said at all, but you'd think there would be some vague consideration of the fact that it might be an issue. Jeez this place is hard work sometimes.
Compared to some I get in fine with all my folks. Wouldn’t want them all in one room all at the same time mind you, but (to misquote douglas adams) they’re mostly harmless.
Here's a slightly different perspective: Around a dozen years ago, our parents moved from the Highlands to the far south of Ireland. Mostly for the warmer and drier climate (Co Waterford, south of the Knockmealdowns, so fair enough) but also perhaps to escape family... My two sisters & I. We're far from perfect. Only trouble is, big sis then decided to move to Co Waterford, along with her family and some baggage. Oh dear.... Anyway, they're older folks, so are isolating on their large and very rural plot. They seem very happy there!
Meantime, we've cancelled our annual trip to Glasgow to stay at the Mrs' brother with his young family. My other half has agonised over what for me was quite an easy decision. Bro lives in West End Glasgow, cafe brunch, expensive private gym & art lifestyle. The kids are 10 & 13, active in their own communities, so a breeding ground for bugs. We've mailed a box with the kids' presents. Now SiL is upset that we're not going and is apparently arranging for some of their city pals to come and stay anyway. I'd say that this very idea confirms all of my concerns about their not taking the risks and rules seriously enough. Ho hum..
It’s as simple as you choose to make it in my opinion. Everyone is different though and if you’re happy biting your tongue fair play to you. I just find the whole ‘because it’s family’ argument to be a weak excuse for dealing with people you don’t like or have bugger all in common with.
The point is you are doing it because it's family and isn't the whole point of it about others.
Given a non-covid XMAS I'm not going to start laying down the law to my mum about excluding my brother and putting her in an impossible situation.
I'm no longer in touch with my mum and brother over how they behaved toward me after my Dad passed away.
My 2 sons no longer contact or reply to any of my letters.
You can't choose family...
My aunt, however, is like a surrogate mum to me in recent years. She was shut out of my life for years due to my mum's poisonous behaviour.
Some people are horrible and sometimes they're related to you!!
My wife’s sister and BIL ruined Xmas for her the last few years, plus no longer has to deal with her step-mum as we’re now 600 miles north in Scotland! If any of her family think they’ll be spending Xmas with us next year at our new house in Tobermory they can get in the sea! I’ve had little to do with my family for 31 years so little change there.
I get the point, and it’s tempting, but it’s not that simple when multiple parties are involved.
... which is why I deleted my post.
Point kinda stands though, it's not your problem if one of your siblings is a dick. Let them be a dick somewhere else. I blame the parents. (-:
They asked if we would pop over. I told them to f off. Sister No.1 is now sulking!
My BiL think it’s all a hoax
This is where we're at with the GF's sister. She's been told she can't come over for Christmas as previously arranged as my other half is having to self-isolate after a positive virus test from one of the snotty infection vectors at work (a school), the sister is one of these covidiots who thinks it's all a big conspiracy so has taken it personally that we won't break the law. GF was nearly in tears earlier today because the sister is now giving her the silent treatment. "Is she ****ing 12?" is what I didn't say in response, nor "good" for that matter. I think I've grown as a person.
The point is you are doing it because it’s family
For me that’s not even a reason. They’re just people like any others. If you get on with them that’s fine. If you don’t why would you stress and agonise over seeing them. Just makes absolutely no sense to me. Like I said though each to their own.
For me that’s not even a reason. They’re just people like any others. If you get on with them that’s fine. If you don’t why would you stress and agonise over seeing them. Just makes absolutely no sense to me. Like I said though each to their own.
Because then someone else I care for will be upset...
Point kinda stands though, it’s not your problem if one of your siblings is a dick. Let them be a dick somewhere else. I blame the parents. (-:
Except it is, because then someone you love and care for is upset.
the sister is one of these covidiots who thinks it’s all a big conspiracy so has taken it personally that we won’t break the law. GF was nearly in tears earlier today
Point kinda stands though, it’s not your problem if one of your siblings is a dick. Let them be a dick somewhere else. I blame the parents. (-:
Could well be why 75% of my siblings moved abroad...
I fear for my kids, they already have 2 half sisters, two step sisters & are due to gain 3 step brothers next year.
Half (if not more) of our COVID problems are down to people doing the best thing for them and sod the rest of us. The ability demonstrate empathy and acting for the good of the whole would do us all good.
This is why we suffer the relatives at Christmas we need to be the change we want to see in life. Running away and hiding is not very adult.
Having said all that a Christmas at home with just Mrs Sandwich has been a long term aim. Job done and we'll get back to a family intense experience when we're able and I will bite my tongue and let it wash over me.
Except it is, because then someone you love and care for is upset.
Agreed, it's not always so easy as we'd like it to be. My wife and mum properly hate each other, but they are civil when they have to be because they both care about me.
This is why we suffer the relatives at Christmas we need to be the change we want to see in life. Running away and hiding is not very adult.
You choose to suffer? The change I sought was less of my family, mission accomplished. In my opinion the adult thing to do would be to realise that some relationships aren’t worth the energy and time taken when nothing is gained from doing so. Would you stay in a broken marriage, a job you hated?