[Closed] Dumped 🙁

by text whilst in bed with my new lady 🙂

found it written on my face, in poo, morning after after a big night out

(oh, sorry for your loss 🙁 )

She came over from another country to live with me, and after giving her a couple of days to check what my feelings were, I had to tell her I'd met someone else since our last time together.

As you can imagine, apart from my new partner, no-one, not even my closest family and friends was on my side. Shit thing to do, but she's fine now, and my new girl left me eventually to move abroad (poetic justice?).

I got a text once:
"Sorry but this isn't working I'm splitting up with you"
Thought the best way to respond was:
"No bother"

She hasn't forgiven me 🙂

I dumped her by text whilst having a dump at work.

I managed to put my ex gf into therapy when I dumped her. Not proud of it, though.

Rachel

Think u made a mistake in yor spellin rachel!, u sed u finished wiv yer gf!! Rachel surely u mean bf! 🙄

I know what I meant...

Can't be that shocking, surely??

Changed my phone number and moved house. Seemed the easiest way to disappear before she found out id boinked her best friend.

allthegear - Member

I managed to put my ex gf into therapy when I dumped her. Not proud of it, though.

Rachel

You tricked your ex into committing herself into an institution just so you could get rid! 👿

I applaud your Machiavellian genius!

Think u made a mistake in yor spellin rachel!, u sed u finished wiv yer gf!! Rachel surely u mean bf!

(shouts to Mrs Bullheart) "WIFE! KETTLE AND BISCUITS! NOW!!!"

any choccy ones, Bullheart?

Rachel

Rachel,don't tease the silly boy.

😆 :lol:at GW.

that's different to the usual advice given on here - normally it would be DO tease the silly boy!!

I dont I've ever had a particularly catastrophic break up. Although they've been painful I've always understood it was defo the right thing to happen.

AND you ALWAYS get to ride your bike more. Which can only be good, no?

I think you'd only scare him,he doesn't seem to have a very accepting nature.

In bed with gf after a boozy night out. Her best mate (gagging for it btw) was in bed with us all laughing and joking. Anyway as one thing led to another, I reached over to the other girl, comfortably in the knowledge that if she was up for it with her mate not a foot away, then I obviously had the green light.
Oh how I was wrong.

Her waking up to the sound of me & a mutual friend going at it in the spare room. That kind of spelled the end really.

Rachel, iz u like lickin beans? 😆

Why not? Carry on Rachel 🙂

My worst one? the last one, engaged and all that for 2yrs then when i asked her at the dinner table in a restaraunt with 6 friends when we were getting married, she replied...

"I don't want to get married".

Bitch.

Go on Rachel,you know he's just your type.

muddydwarf - that's cruel...

I dont like hurting people (and am also a coward for confrontation) so if i want to split up with someone i try to engineer it that they are the ones doing the dumping. One girl didnt take the months of hints...so i pretended to join the foreign legion, moved back home to my parents in Scotland and just stopped all contact overnight.

Rachel - I ended up outside B&Q with a rope in my hands that i'd apparently bought, in tears with no real idea of how i'd got there (which seeing as my bike was with me was rather scary).

Not a good time TBH.

Only been dumped once - over the phone on our first anniversary.

Oh thats cruel Anna 🙁

I've at the very worst changed phone numbers and tactfully avoided the town where she was from for a few months.

muddydwarf - wow - scary stuff. Hope you have dealt with it now and gone on to pastures new.

There's no such thing as a right way to dump someone - someone always gets hurt but there are some real car crashes here...

Rachel

that is quite pathetic Omar but also very very funny.
Well done for sharing
No horror stories either way.

Can't really go into it in much detail here, but my worst one was a rather public breakup. I alienated a load of folk in the local mtb community (not proud of), went through therapy for depression, and ruined a subsequent relationship. Thankfully, for the most part, now water under the bridge.

Got dumped by my then girlfriend on my 30th birthday. To be fair to her, she had said she'd make it a birthday I'd never forget.

I dumped my first girlfriend after I'd decided things weren't working out and I wanted to get out. Went to her house, explained the situation, and said quite clearly "Things aren't working, and I want us to break up" queue loads of tears, "This is the worst day of my life, I have nothing left to live for" type stuff was said (by her) and I did the manly thing and legged it.
A couple of weeks later, no contact between us, and she appears outside mine and says "I don't think things are really working for us, we never seem to see each other any more" It felt really cruel to have to explain for a 2nd time.... 😕

LOL @ this thread.

Not really 'dumping' but my 1st wife and I weren't getting on and I decided I was going to Spain for a while to work. At the last minute she came along and on the first day there we decided to split up. Had a very strange but fun 'honeymoon' type 2 weeks and then she went home......alone.

I had a cracking summer 😆

Wow there's some nasty people on here 😐

Wow there's some nasty people on here

Seconded.

Rachel - i'm fine 🙂 Off to Cornwall on Sat with Msd, we're gonna spend my birthday round an open fire, chocolate cake and wine - oh and the bikes 🙂

Wow there's some nasty people on here

Or people who are telling the tale safe in the knowledge that the other side of the story isn't about to pop up saying "Hang on, hang on, that's not how it happened." 😉

Can't really go into it in much detail here, but my worst one was a rather public breakup. I alienated a load of folk in the local mtb community (not proud of), went through therapy for depression, and ruined a subsequent relationship. Thankfully, for the most part, now water under the bridge.

Wow, sounds familiar! 😕

Only ever dumped 2 girls myself, the first one was quite comedy. Was in my last year at uni having only been dumped by my long term GF about 8 weeks prior, and met this girl. Went on a couple of dates, ended up back at her house in bed. Anyway, not much happened, I was being a gentleman and the tears started flowing with her... Turned out she was a virgin and was embarrassed! Anyway, no problem... Calmed her down, started talking about things, and she could see what I nice guy I was... So much so, that within 30 minutes of me having stopped her from crying, she had turned around and told me what she wanted to name "our kids"!!!

I got dressed... Quickly.

I RAN LIKE F@@K!

Spent the last 2 terms of uni avoiding her like the plague...

I'd actually say *best* way in this case, as I'm a big music/song lyrics geek, but an old girlfriend simply sent me the lyrics to Ani di Franco's "Used to You" (look it up) with a note saying "This is how I feel. Goodbye"

Worst was just being lied to - "It's not you, we've just grown apart, you've got things to do that don't involve me etc etc" when actually she'd got it together with a guy from her uni halls a couple of weeks before and didn't want to tell me. Things were a damn sight easier when she just told me the truth.

Kit.......... Thankfully, for the most part, now water under the bridge.

Rachel, Sounds familiar. 🙄

Took weeks to break up with my first gf, she wouldn't get the message 😆 can laugh about it now, at the time it was shit.

kit - go to fbpm

can laugh about it now

I think this is the best thing - being able to stand back, at whatever point you're finally over the tears and anger, and go "WTF, man?! 😀

Things were a damn sight easier when she just told me the truth.

They generally are!

"Sorry, I've found someone else" actually takes a lot less time to get over and move on from than "it's not you, it's me"...