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So, my girlfriend of 17 years and mother of my 2 young children got the all clear today.
The last 9 months have been intolerable.
I have cried more today than I ever have in blessed relief.
She just carries on; I'm the weak crying one in this relationship.
Just writing this down and breathing.
The Docs said it was a cancer that would never go away.
Today they say it's all totally gone.
Crying as I'm writing this but I don't care.
Just this fangled dangled way of getting it off my chest.
Fantastic news 🙂
Wow wonderful news Mark! Really really great.
That is well worth having a good cry over. Your mission now is to live life like you stole it.
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Brilliant news !!
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Amazing, your GF sounds like one incredible woman. Thanks for sharing this.
That's brilliant.
That's got me smiling at the start of the day. Great news!
Fantastic news!
As someone who has been through it twice before and has just been diagnosed with cancer for a third time, just be aware that being given the all clear can be a really tough time when a lot of emotions come out. It was like that for me.
Thank you for sharing that. It's made my day a little easier to get started!
Glad I opened this, great news, so happy for you.
Loveofminkys big hug for you
What a great thing to read first thing of a morning. Really chuffed for you and your family 😀
Yay for Ms D. And to echo MuppetWrangler Carpe Diem!
Congratulations to you both.
Cancer is a bit of a shit and anyone who beats it is very lucky indeed. Take a little time and let your emotions flow out and then crack out the bubbly when you are both ready.
Mark thanks for sharing thats brilliant. I have 2 friends with a similar diagnosis and i would love to be able to write a similar post next year.
Congrats - good news for the last (official) day of winter
This is a very, very happy post! Congrats to all of you.
Great to hear a positive story about cancer. Keep on fighting.
Cosmic 🙂
You are certainly not the weak one for crying, i think its a very healthy thing to be able to do!
Fantastic news fella! 🙂
Crying is the body's way of releasing stress, absolutely no shame in doing it on hearing that kind of news 😀
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Awesome news.
Fantastic! What a great thing to read first ting!
glad i looked at this. Happy for you chap.
You are a far far far way away from being week.
Good work chap. Now treat yourselves to something 🙂
fantastic news, just what I needed to hear 🙂
Wonderful news, you're allowed to cry 🙂
Thanks for all the positive helpful reactions.
Helped immensely.
Excellent news!
Peter Griffin celebrates with you.
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All gone tits up.
Another scan shows it's back now in lymph nodes.
Docs suggest we have a good summer then get stuck in again with treatment.
Will treat but not get rid.
Forgive my clumsy language.
God is a ****er.
She has done nothing wrong.
Doesn't drink/ never smoked.
God is going to take the mother of my two children away.
Suddenly it's all become very real.
I understand nobody needs to know my problems but it's nice to write it down.
We have just cuddled for the last 2 days without talking about it.
My little 6 year old will have to be told almost immediately when the treatment starts as this time hair loss will be apparent.
My 1 year old boy, ****, I don't know. Hopefully he will see his mummy and remember.
The good positive is that we have time to say goodbye.
This is all really shit.
Just sounding it out.
Haven't even told mum yet.
Hello Mark,
Fancy a chat tomorrow? I've some experience with what you're going through, and would be more than happy to lend an ear.
PM me your number and a convenient time if so, and we'll go from there. It isn't the end, rather the start of a very important journey for you all which will galvanise everything.
All the best,
Bullheart
Appreciate that mate.
Really sorry to hear this mark. Anything I say will just seem trivial. I'm thinking of you and your family and my heart goes out to you all. I'd start filming everything no matter how trivial. A record for the kids. Love to you all
Hey, Mark.
I don't usually post on these threads, but try not to get too bogged down in the fairness thing as it'll just tear you apart. Let's just say I speak from some experience.
Speaking to Bullheart, as he'll have some apposite advice, is a good start in what is going to happen next.
One thing I would suggest is while you're enjoying your summer (yeah I know), record stuff. Make videos with your missus and the kids. Audio recordings etc.
Good luck.
Hi Mark, that's truly appalling news and I can't begin to imagine what you are going through. I don't know where you are based but if you need anything myself and plenty on here will help you out, don't be afraid to ask, concentrate on the important stuff. Keep strong fella.
Shit news sending my best wishes to you and your girlfriend, big hugs.
#****cancer
I don't have anything more constructive than, Good Luck ! Sorry.
That is shit, I lost my dad in April after a short but difficult fight. Make the most of now - you don't have to be superhuman - there will be people you can ask for help. Friends, family and charities. One of the few positives to the situation is realising how much the people in your life and complete strangers will step up to help.
Talk to your doctors and nurses - you aren't the first and sadly you won't be the last familly to go through this - they are a gold mine of advice and help.
Good luck.
Sorry to hear , all the very best of luck
I'm sorry to hear that. Virtual hugs to you, and take up bullhearts offer.
Speak to Macmillan too, they are really good, it will be really difficult but just try and be positive for her and fight it together.
In the middle of uncle having prostate cancer and my 36 year old sister having ovarian cancer at the moment and my wife is radiotherapist on local cancer ward, so it seems to dominate life.
very sorry to hear that mark, cant imagine whjat you all must be going through
virtual hugs
I wish you and your family all the love and best wishes in the world. Speaking from personal expereince (I have lost both my parents the same way) if it has come back then it is unlikely to go away. Make video of your wife with your kids, get her to make video messages for their wedding day, birth of their child, 18th birthday. I have no video of my father to show my children and just a little video of my mum, I would give anything for more video of them speaking or anything. and IIWY release all your savings and get off round the world or something, with your kids. School doesn't matter. They can get educated later, some things are more important than school. 🙁
I first read this a couple of hours ago and didn't comment because despite having been where you are now I don't know that anything I can say or do can help right now. I don't think I've ever seen, read or heard anything that even approaches the depth of emotions that you'll be going through whilst you all try and cope with this.
Not that it'll mean much but you're both in my thoughts and I hope the time you have together can still be a time that you treasure.
I'm so, so sorry to hear this - I can't even start to appreciate how horrendous this must be for you all. Like others have said (much better than me too) make the most of every minute of every day. Reading things like this make me realise how much of my life I waste and that I should appreciate my family and friends more than I do. I'm guilty of taking things for granted and this has made me realise how wrong I am to do so.
You're in our thoughts, I wish we could do more.