[Closed] Bit of trouble at mill

Its London coming over all LA, does he keep a Shih Tzu in his bag, otherwise what the hell do men put in these bags.

I'm interested to know what 'pretty much stuck to my guns' means exactly?

It means I wouldn't retract my statement in fact I went on to justify it.

The gay guy here would be very amused to hear himself described as too scared to disagree as he is 6 4 and 22 stone, not all gay men are like your obvious view of them and I think he'd find that more offensive.

Or he might see that it was a bit of "banter".

"I am not some kind of ...bully"

I think being a bully is about how you make other people feel, not about how you feel about what you've said?

I have no issue with a persons sexuality but rightly or wrongly I view handbags and perfume as effeminate traits.

ReeeEEAAaaally....

It means I wouldn't retract my statement in fact I went on to justify it.

So you did tell him that it actually wasn't ok for him to carry a bag? Again, as far as I'm concerned:

Piss-taking in the spirit of friendly banter = probably fine
Trying to explain why it actually isn't acceptable for a man to carry a certain type of bag = ridiculous

WTF. Of course it's not acceptable AT ALL. Wallet. Phone. Keys. Done.

paulrockliffe - Member

WTF. Of course it's not acceptable AT ALL. Wallet. Phone. Keys. Done.

... Laptop? Filofax? Mobile phone? Spectacles? Lunch? Newspaper? Paperwork?...

Effeminate has nothing to do with sexuality and you show your bigotry by thinking it does.

I note however, that you think viewing an "effeminate" trait might be "wrong"... How so?

Well, simply put blokes shouldnt carry handbags.

A bloke having a high degree of empathy is fine however.

Both effeminate traits.

Seriously how much difference is there between a briefcase, a courier bag, a ruck sack and a man bag for carrying your bits and bobs around. It's just a matter of taste, no?

Well, simply put blokes shouldnt carry handbags.

Don't see why not. Why not? Make you feel uncomfortable?

 

Effeminate has nothing to do with sexuality and you show your bigotry by thinking it does.

But really, can you explain why it is that certain types/shapes/styles of bag are 'OK' for men to carry while others are not?

Or when you think about it, is it all really rather silly?

if it had a shoulder strap its not a handbag

maybe the aftershave is to mask the stenching BO he detects from everyone else in the office?

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I can't quite believe what I am reading from joolsburger.

It doesn't matter if he is gay, straight, black, fat, ginger or whatever. You said something that offended him and your inability to appreciate that fact is worrying. You continue to think that what you said was acceptable but it was offensive to the person and you should apologise.

I have a number of A4 folders and a laptop. These items conveniently fit into a messenger bag. I wear a messenger bag.

Should i need a new messenger bag I will be buying a wax/leather one because the look better and last longer.

Does following these seemingly logical steps mean that 'sales' people will indirectly (for the sake of being PC) question my sexuality?

Will a similar thing happen if i have the audacity to smell pleasant?

Banter is banter, someone needs a lesson in recongnising the line between having a laugh at/with someone and bullying them based on their own prejudices/ignorance.

I have a number of A4 folders and a laptop. These items conveniently fit into a messenger bag. I wear a messenger bag.

Are you a man? Not acceptable imo.

😀

his 300 pound manbag

oh, I'd just assumed it was very heavy.

Does following these seemingly logical steps mean that 'sales' people will indirectly (for the sake of being PC) question my sexuality?

Why does the sexuality thing keep cropping up when no one said anything about his sexuality. Seems to me that people want to put words into my mouth to make their argument more PC based.

I simply and still do wonder when it became cool for men to use perfume and wear handbags.. What??

i think we need to see pictures of this bag

only then can we determine if this fellow deserves to be mocked or not

So what if you upset him, its a tough nasty world out there people.

Manbags and perfume are semi-acceptable, manscara/guy-liner is pushing it though

I simply and still do wonder when it became cool for men to use perfume and wear handbags.. What??

Men have been using some kind of deodorant/scent/aftershave for many many years. Men have also been carrying briefcases/rucksacks/bags for many years. Can't you see how ridiculous you sound trying to dictate which exact type of smelly stuff/bag is ok and which is unacceptable for people of a certain gender?

Again - light-hearted piss-taking is one thing. The fact that you seem to have a genuine problem with it says a lot about you.

whatever happened to pockets?

right this is it and it's 500 I've just discovered.

http://www.mulberry.com/#/storefront/c5488/3834/category/

Now that is a bloody handbag as far as I can tell.

Can't you see how ridiculous you sound trying to dictate which exact type of smelly stuff/bag is ok and which is unacceptable for people of a certain gender?

These look nice 😯

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Is a black leather A4 sized bag with a flap over top & a strap acceptable? Bit like a messenger bag, I guess. I am a little concerned as to whether I should be using it or not. It's got at least one chunky zip on it, if that makes a difference?

And how about Gillette deodorant, with the occasional squirt of aftershave?

I don't have a handbag becuase I like to keep my hands free for the raping and the pillaging and the wrestling of sabre toothed tigers etc.

Just make sure you 'refuel' your face with plenty of beer after a hard day.

*strikes match on stubble*

*realises designer stubble and matches are for nancy boys*

*strikes flint on chin*

*stitches chin up with fishing line and naw anaethetic*

I do have a genuine problem with it, 🙄 oh it keeps me awake at nights so it does...

Its not his sexuality i'd be questioning, but his grip on reality? Jeezz £300

And how much do we spend on bikes and bike bits? And some people on here openly discuss spending several thousand pounds on watches too.

Each to their own I say. And that bag looks okay to me - I wouldn't spend £500 on it, but I wouldn't think it wrong to carry it.

I do have a genuine problem with it,

Well otherwise why did you 'stick to your guns', and post a thread about it, and continue to go on about why it's unacceptable without ever specifying why (though it's pretty obvious).

Yeah I think the bag would look a bit daft and that £500 is ridiculous but if it makes him happy then why not?

This just displays a staggering lack of judgement, firstly you have a go at someone for doing something that can't possibly impact on your ability to do your job, secondly, and this is really the clincher, you post about it on here and try to justify it (to yourself which presumably was the point of posting it in the first place) further making yourself look like an unreasonable and unpleasant individual, no offence like.

I am hugely pleased with my first highly sucessful troll.

I work in on office with 13 women and there are no men amazing how quickly a simple query labels you homophobic though.

Loving those lefties.

You enjoy you're handbags lads.

I am hugely pleased with my first highly sucessful troll.

making you even more of a cock

Wow well done you must feel so proud.

🙄

Especially as the gay guy I mentioned is my brother and you lot have patently no idea what your all on about.

well we laughed.

"no idea what your all on about"

we do understand when to use "you're" not "your", though.

It's not an atom bomb, it's a corned beef tin

amazing how quickly a simple query labels you homophobic though.