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philconsequence - Member

yup, i had held the door open for a couple of people to come through and noticed her lagging behind so figured i'd hold the door open a while longer. its not like i saw her approaching a door and ran up to it, chest puffed out and swung it open whilst shouting "let me get that for you, your puny lady-arms cannot handle such things"

I still hold the door open for people, always will 'cos i was brought up like that... but that incident has made me think twice about holding it open for women who look angry with that fact men exist like her.

Posted 1 year ago #
molgrips - Member

Don't let one grumpy person put you off being nice Phil

Posted 1 year ago #
elaine anne - Member

shouldnt you have highlighted 'Grumpy' there mr molegrips..

Posted 1 year ago #
robbo1234biking - Member

I have to admit that I do like heading up North but I think it is just because the roads are quieter. Spend most of my driving time on the M1-M6 between London and Bham.

Dont get me wrong people do still say thank you but noticeably more so with lorry drivers it has decreased which prob means they are fed up with people accelerating past them when they have their indicator on.

Posted 1 year ago #
robbo1234biking - Member

EDIT: Strange double post never had that before

Posted 1 year ago #
BigJohn - Member

When I let somebody out, or let them turn right in front of me, I get a bit fed up if they then spend the next 3 seconds waving and smiling INSTEAD of getting a move on.

Posted 1 year ago #
elaine anne - Member

dont let them out anymore then...

Posted 1 year ago #
BigJohn - Member

That would be mean.

Posted 1 year ago #
The Southern Yeti - Member

spend the next 3 seconds waving and smiling INSTEAD of getting a move on

God... I know what you mean. At the end of your life, that could end up being a whole hour or so of your life wasted with being smiled at!

Posted 1 year ago #
BigJohn - Member

I'd prefer them to smile and drive.

Reminds me of Gerald Ford. The real quote was he couldn't chew gum and fart at the same time.

Posted 1 year ago #
Wozza - Member

I drive a BMW and I've noticed...

A. People don't take you seriously when you flash them into your lane, you have to do it twice.

B. They don't say thank you as often as when I drove the Volvo, even though my driving hasn't changed.

When I let somebody out, or let them turn right in front of me, I get a bit fed up if they then spend the next 3 seconds waving and smiling INSTEAD of getting a move on.

I don't expect them to throw me a party, but it's a nice gesture to raise a hand off the wheel or a foot off the pegs.

Posted 1 year ago #
TandemJeremy - Member

They do up here. I bet the OP is in the south east

Posted 1 year ago #
robbo1234biking - Member

TJ - Bedfordshire - everyone must be a bit grumpy around here then. Ill have to move further North!

Posted 1 year ago #
Three_Fish - Member

dont let them out anymore then..

No!!!!! That's how it just gets worse. The logical progression is that, eventually, nobody is courteous.

You can guarantee that for every three people you let out at a junction, one of them will do the same for somebody else. That's one more person than would have had you not done it yourself. And so what if they other two don't? Or don't say thanks. At least the people behind them got to move a bit quicker. It's all about helping the flow - of traffic and of love.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jc-EdW1amwg

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stumpy01 - Member

Can't say i've noticed it anymore or less depending on where i am in the country as a proportion of the people who do/don't.

But there's less cars/people so perhaps less incidences of it.

Down near London/SE the traffic is so dense that you do have to maintain a bit of a 'outta my way, coming through' mentality or you'd get nowhere. Although that doesn't mean you should be rude at the same time.

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binners - Member

I was on the way into work a couple of months ago and let somebody filter into traffic in front of me. Next thing a little LED display lit up with the words 'thank you' in his back window

Made me smile

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stumpy01 - Member

binners - Member
I was on the way into work a couple of months ago and let somebody filter into traffic in front of me. Next thing a little LED display lit up with the words 'thank you' in his back window

Made me smile

I was gonna mention in my post above about getting one of those. Firebox used to sell them (I think) with a remote & something like 16 slots for phrases that you could program in.
You could have a combination of 'thanks', as well as useful phrases & probably some insults to people who wound you up. Just have to make sure you pressed the right one at the right time!!

Posted 1 year ago #
Kevevs - Member

Thank you for waiting. Would you like a bag for life?

Posted 1 year ago #
Cougar - Member

On the moving over for motorbikes thing... Is it just me or does anyone else think that it is dangerous?

Example - car moves over, bike assumes it is safe to overtake

Bikers don't assume things, generally. The ones that do tend not to be bikers for long.

In the situation described here, you can't even rule out the driver moving back to the centre of the road intentionally in order to push you into oncoming traffic 'for a laugh.' Ever moved over to let a biker past and they've nailed it to get in front of you as quickly as possible? You've probably sat there and thought "tosser," but that's why they do it.

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mastiles_fanylion - Member

Agreed Cougar - but I guess I drive like that so there is no margin for misunderstanding. I try to drive courteously at all times but I do try to let all other drivers/riders make their own decisions and not be influenced by anything I am doing/they think I might be doing.

Posted 1 year ago #
Kevevs - Member

when I'm doing donuts in McDonalds car park in my saxo, I always wave and say hi to my mates, and thank them for their appreciation of my driving skilz. If they can hear me above my bangin tunes and bucket exhaust.

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richmtb - Member

I think most drivers etc are still courteous, you just tend to remember people who don't acknowledge or thank you more, i know I do.

But we have a wierd dichotomy here in the UK. We are generally considered the most courteous drivers in Europe but at the same time we also have the worst record on road rage

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Cougar - Member

We are generally considered the most courteous drivers in Europe

To be fair, that's like arguing that Goebbels was one of the nicest chancellors of the Third Reich.

Posted 1 year ago #
bellerophon - Member

Seems polite enough up here, I'll acknowledge a thank you, just seems right

Posted 1 year ago #
takisawa2 - Member

But we have a wierd dichotomy here in the UK.

Is that some kind of operation ?

I used to moan about other folk being grumpy etc, until I experienced the kindness of complete strangers when we had a nasty car accident a year or two back. People going completely out of their way to help. Restored my faith somewhat.

Posted 1 year ago #
molgrips - Member

Down near London/SE the traffic is so dense that you do have to maintain a bit of a 'outta my way, coming through' mentality or you'd get nowhere. Although that doesn't mean you should be rude at the same time

I've found that in London and nearby people ARE still courteous but it's a much tighter game. People will ease up to create just a tiny gap and expect you to take it. It's necessary because traffic is so dense. You can't hang about, likewise you can't become intimidated or annoyed by everything happening quickly.

But we have a wierd dichotomy here in the UK. We are generally considered the most courteous drivers in Europe but at the same time we also have the worst record on road rage

I am forming a theory that it's because we care more - about other people, but also when we think other people have inconvenienced us. My experience in the US and Germany is that people are generally just blank. You don't get favours of people, but you also don't get aggro. People just drive around blankly on autopilot. You don't get thanked but you don't get aggro either - blank looks all round. I dunno which is worse. At least in the UK we tend to be concentrating.

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grum - Member

Can't say i've noticed it anymore or less depending on where i am in the country as a proportion of the people who do/don't.

But there's less cars/people so perhaps less incidences of it.

I think that's it though, I don't really think it's some innate character of people in a certain area - but business breeds unfriendliness.

It's like when you go out walking in the Lakes or whatever. When you are in Ambleside, you don't say hello to every single person, but out on the fells when there's less people about you probably will. If you get somewhere really remote and see another person you'd probably stop and have a chat with them.

Posted 1 year ago #
Woody - Member

I find that mouthing the word "bollox" gets a more interesting response.
Not as interesting as if you blow them a kiss

I get thanked quite a lot up here in the NE and I have noticed that men are far more likely to do so than women. Whether that is because they are more polite, or simply because they have actually realised you have given way/done them a favour, is debatable. The look on some womens faces says it all ie. I don't care/haven't seen you/I'm busy on the phone

Posted 1 year ago #
richmtb - Member

I have noticed that men are far more likely to do so than women.

Controversial, but probably true

Posted 1 year ago #
mastiles_fanylion - Member

Especially women driving Q5s, X3s etc....

Posted 1 year ago #
don simon - Member

I have to say driving in London was agreat experience, a question of standing your ground rather than bullying and being rude.
Strangely you can see differences culturally, and here the middle finger is generally used as a sign of appreciation.
Also when on holidays you can call the waiters in Spain "capullo" (ca-poo-yo) as well as camarero.

Posted 1 year ago #
mastiles_fanylion - Member

Tell you what really boils my piss - when someone asks for advice on here, you respond (with what you think is good advice) and they don't even bother to say thank you.

Posted 1 year ago #
emma82 - Member

I always say thank youbut I do have a friend who doesn't take the slightest bit of notice of someone being helpful or kind, she just assumes people are being weird if they are nice. Strange way of looking at things. I like being nice, people are usually nice in return then.

Posted 1 year ago #
catfood - Member

People who dont say thanks when you stop for them at zebra crossings annoy me, just a nod or a wave will do, I wind the window down and shout your welcome to them. My son is only two and he always thanks people who stop for us, good manners are free and a little politeness goes a long way.
I have noticed that bikers dont wave as much these days when you move over for them, I rode a bike for 15 years or more and I always thanked people who moved over.

Posted 1 year ago #
iDave - Member

I took my (English) kids to Donegal at easter and they commented how everyone is much friendlier. Strangers say hello, thank you, stop to ask if we needed directions etc.

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