“Relaxing” is not really a concept I really understand. The wife ran a personality test on me at the weekend (a ‘proper’ one, not some clickbait shite on FB) Apparently when I’ve been telling her I find relaxing very stressful I wasn’t talking out of my arse.
So, piss and moan as I grind my bike up hill and then ride down them as aggressively as I dare (I’m not very daring). Shout at the Xbox, listen to loud / music, that sort of stuff calms my mind and clears my thoughts. It’s not what most people find relaxing.
I have to be pretty much worn out before I’ll happily sit still. The idea of sitting on some beach whilst someone brings me drinks or whatever sounds completely horrific. When I do I tend to sit slack-jawed looking at the TV, when I do I like to watch other people work – I now know why I like things like Fast n’ Loud, Guy Martin stuff and Car SOS, I have a sort of passing interest in cars these days, but it’s the whole working stuff out I like – it’s like doing stuff by proxy ha ha.
It’s been really useful for us actually, we’ve never been under any illusions that we’re alike – we’re not and that’s fine, but it makes understanding why I could never happily take a 2 week holiday at some beach resort or why my wife would live some time to just lay still for a moment.