The weight difference for a full XTR v XT is about half a pound.
The chainset and cassette account for more than half of the weight saving so if you’re only interested in saving weight these are the items to go for but like others have said they’re expensive and are the items that tend to wear out. They also don’t really offer any performance benefit other than weight over XT.
Some of the items aren’t actually much lighter but I do think things like the shifters are nicer to use than XT ones so it’s not just about weight saving.
The front mech is probably the worst value, as it offers no real weight saving and doesn’t really offer any advantage over XT so you only really buy it to complete the groupset.
Obviously it’s expensive but if you can afford it then why not, it’s lighter, some of it works a bit better and it looks nicer than XT in my opinion.