SRAM AXS controller – not a switch, just a light push…not cheap though.
I found SRAM mechanical shifters felt lighter than Shimano, but the Shimano shifter felt more solid. I suspect sealed cables with a lot of very light grease to keep them very light and smooth might also help. If the mech is manky then it will take more effort to shift it…electronic tends to counter this and you don’t feel it through your finger.
Unsure if there are any thumbshifters available for modern 9/10/11/12 speed systems, but that might also be an option as you can operate them with the paml of your hand rather than a thumb (but not quite as comfy).