I don’t think I do anything on purpose. I annoy her just by doing normal stuff so that’s enough. If you put a gun to my head I’d say, ‘anticipating an argument and avoiding it’.
After you’ve spent a long time with someone, you start to know them incredibly well and I know from very subtle changes in behaviour when my wife is about to kick off for arguments sake. So I’ll deliberately either remove myself or apply controls that will dilute the conflict potential. I can tell just by slight changes in voice tone and discussion topics that my wife is manouvering us towards a row so I divert things.
I expect that’s quite annoying.