- Suicide isn't painless
Thats terrible news. Really sorry to hear that
A lad down the road from us, about the same age, did the same recently. I was baffled as to how your life could be that bad, so young, to want to take your own life. Thats normally the time when you’re filled with optimism.
It seems slightly more comprehensible if your older, maybe been through the mill a bit, having had a lot more years to make a right old mess of things. But at that age…. ?Posted 4 years agoThree_FishMember
Good friend of mine walked in front of a train a few months ago. It leaves a totally different hole to ‘normal’ grief. I’m happy that he doesn’t have to suffer his experience any more, but the feeling that he should have, could have found the answer seems like it’s going to be with me for the rest of my life.Posted 4 years agoRosssMember
Really sorry to hear that,
I lost my cousin the same way just over a year ago, the pain in my uncle’s eyes is still there and no-one knew why he didn’t ask for help in our close family. The memories will never fade and in my heart i’ve found peace hoping he’s happier now.
Take carePosted 4 years agodeviantMember
As awful as this is for those close to the lad try to look at it as a release for him.
Perhaps the alternative would have been a life time of mental illness, depression, medication, therapy etc etc and he just couldnt face it…ultimately who would he have been doing it for?….himself or those around him?
Its not actually the cowards way out as some people suggest, it takes a huge amount of courage to make that decision and carry it out, he’s in a better place i’m sure.Posted 4 years ago16stonepigMember
Horrible for those left behind, I’m sure. Sorry for your pain.
I heard an interesting way to look at this from a doctor on some radio program a little while ago. Instead of thinking of it as a mental flaw or weakness, just remember that depression is a disease. Sometimes it is fatal. Blame the disease, not the lad.Posted 4 years agomolgripsSubscriber
Jake I don’t know why you did it
You have my sympathy, it’s a terrible thing.
But as above, do remember that it’s not a decision made for any reason. Sometimes our brains go wrong, and this can happen. The old fashioned movie stereotype of a man on a ledge in the Great Depression doens’t really apply in most cases I think.Posted 4 years agoprojectMember
People need to get away from the old idea depression or bipolar is a reason for suicide,lots of things are also relevant, lifestyles, lack of money,job loss, relationship breakdowns,family breakdowns, bullying,stress and sexual identity, and lots more.
Its just so very sad for the person who takes their own life, they just didnt feel confident enough to just talk to someone, to ask for help, and to be listened to.Posted 4 years agomolgripsSubscriber
A friend of mine struggles with suicidal thoughts regularly. She has a happy life, a family, three small kids, but sometimes an uncontrollable self destructive streak takes over. She spends a lot of time in therapy of some kind, so even having the courage to talk to someone isn’t enough.Posted 4 years agotheotherjonvSubscriber
What deviant said and others have also expressed. It’s not selfish, or cowardice. It’s the converse; for someone to carry on living through deep depression and mental illness, when all problems seem insurmountable and there’s never any end in sight, just because of the effect it’ll have on those left behind – that’s about as selfless an act as I can think of.
Thoughts to all concerned.Posted 4 years agoidiotdogbrainMember
My sympathies and thoughts are with you. My fiancee’s brother took his life just over three weeks ago at the age of 21, 8 years after they both lost their younger brother to cancer at the age of 10 – it came as a complete shock as none of us had any idea that he was feeling this way. We had not long been on holiday with him and his mum, and he seemed his usual cheeky self. I’ve had the job of sorting out his computers (he was partially disabled and spent a lot of time online gaming) and found a suicide note that he emailed to himself, obviously knowing it would be found… 🙁
Having struggled with depression myself but never quite got to that point, I just feel a great sadness that he felt unable to talk to anyone about it, and that none of us knew how he was feeling. The only consolation is that he’s no longer in the terrible torment he must have been going through, but it doesn’t make picking up the pieces any easier.Posted 4 years agoTom_W1987Member
suicide,lots of things are also relevant, lifestyles, lack of money,job loss, relationship breakdowns,family breakdowns, bullying,stress and sexual identity, and lots more.
Yeah which tends to cause depression, anxiety or a loss of contact with reality. People very rarely rationally decide to kill themselves.
And your vulnerability to that is quite often genetic ergo physiological.Posted 4 years ago
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