- So, my girlfriend left me
Came home thursday night and she ended it all. Packed her bag, went to her mums until i left the following morning and went up to my parents (some 250 miles away).
not really sure what to do with myself – bikes and everything apart from my clothes are still in “our” house until i can find somewhere else to live in london and then i’ll have to go back and get the rest of my things.
Finding it quite hard not to keep going over the fact my world just collapsed from under me, and that i’ve not only lost my girlfriend but my best mate at that. Heartbroken to be honest… 🙁Posted 7 years ago
potentially lots of things as causes – money, living situation, me commuting and working long hours, lots of things taking their toll on the pair of us but we had always managed to sort it out in the past, where as this time their was no reasoning with her about changing the situation, no warning, effectively stopped working with me on the relationship and left me in our house climbing up the walls. There are elements i can understand from her perspective, but all these issues would be quite easily solved in the next 18 months when I finish my MA.
Really appreciate just being able to talk to people and keep my mind off the worst of it really (manhug optional)Posted 7 years agoscottyjohnMember
By the sounds of the MA studies, you have a good life ahead and have had to struggle to get there. You will move on and be a happier person for this. Old cliche, but what doesnt kill you makes you stronger!
You will meet someone more in tune with your world and look back at how much better things got after this.Posted 7 years ago
well, the house we live in belongs to her grandad, and i can’t afford to pay the rent there and commute, so it doesn’t really leave me much option.
I couldn’t bring myself to stop in that house anyway, going back to get the rest of my things is going to be hard enough as it is.Posted 7 years agobillyboySubscriber
A lady I was (stupidly) fond of dumped me on my birthday a couple of years back.
Find a version of a song called “Station Blues/Sittin on Top of the World”… there’s a good one on a CD titled “Shake Hands with Shorty” by the North Mississippi Allstars ……….and play it loudly
And now she’s gone
And I don’t worry
SITTING ON TOP OF THE WORLD
One door closes….. but there’s now time for a whole load of bridleway gates to open.Posted 7 years agoeviljoeSubscriber
Sorry to hear that chap:(
Get out and ride.
Seriously- get soaking wet and windblown, push yourself harder than ever up the hills, forget the brakes on your favourite downhills- go night riding and howl at the moon- there’s nothing like a bit of forward motion and physical exertion to help you move on.
Oh and girls will love the crazy look in your eyes
or something.. 😉Posted 7 years agospacemonkeyMember
Remember, it will get better. My last split was in Nov 05 – got “evicted” and had nowhere to go having sold my house the previous year. Ended up crashing at various mates’ houses for 4 months; just me, my dog Bert and a car full of stuff. Ended up being a pretty interesting adventure all in all.
Having had one particularly bad late night experience of having to leave an alcoholic so-called mate’s place in the middle of the night, I’d say plan ahead and see who’ll to put you up. Sleeping in one’s car in winter is not fun.
But once you’re back in the swing of things and getting out and about keeping your mind occupied, then you’ll soon be sorted.
Chin up.Posted 7 years ago
Well thanks for all the advice. I am well in the process of finding another place to live near university – but the accommodation office doesn’t open again until tomorrow.
I’ve found a room available in a couple of weeks time at the royal college of music, which i am hoping to rent for about 6 months before planning to move in with one of my course mates hopefully. I know it’s effectively halls of residence, but it’s the cheapest way to not be miles out of town and get stuck into a tenancy (that i can find at the moment anyway).Posted 7 years agotakisawa2Subscriber
Chin up mate. About all that can be said really, time heals etc, but wont mean a lot to you for a while. Youll come through. You sound a sound enough chap.Posted 7 years ago
I’d be planning a nice long road trip for your summer break. Stash some cash away now & hit the road for a month of hassle free biking around the country, further if funds permit.NikNak7890Member
the_lecht_rocks – Member
Nicolai Helius AC.
How old are you ?
If you’re less than 35 you’re better off without… Loads of fun and opportunity if you’re in your 20’s….
I had a great time right until I was 34 and met my beautiful wife…
Not entirely sure that came out right! LolPosted 7 years ago
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