So, I've just found out I too have cancer.
Well what can I say, the last week or so has been a rollercoaster which unfortunately feels as if it only has the downs. I’m 44 fit have a wonderful partner (soon to be wife) and a dynamo of a gorgeous 4 year old girl.
I have had no symptoms until a fortnight ago when my stomach started to become enlarged and steadily got worse. I was referred by my GP to the AMEA ward at hospital on Monday and was discharged on Tuesday with the thought of being constipated. I felt no better on the Thursday so went back to my GP who referred me again to AMEA but this time they did a CT scan and wham out of the blue you have cancer.
I’ve spent the last couple of days on the oncology ward where they carried out some ultrasound screening to see if they could help identify the pockets of liquid in my stomach but so far with little luck. The discussion with the oncologist doctor yesterday was surreal and still feels so. I have a biopsy on Monday so they can identify what type of cancer it is to help devise a plan but the last bit of news she said shocked me. It had probably originated from my bowel but has indeed spread throughout my stomach and the chemotherapy route would be palliative. My life feels as though it’s stopped and when we came home last night (for a weekend at home before the biopsy on Monday) I feel as if I’ve walked into the wrong house. The house we’ve lived in happily for years and have lots of great times but now I’m here and it’s not the person. I almost feel like an imposter here because I’m not the same anymore.
When I got home at night my gorgeous daughter gave me a huge welcome asking if my tummy is better and when will the doctors make it better. I can hear her now downstairs playing and laughing and teasing her aunty who’s come over to help but I’m currently upstairs feeling scared.
Sorry for sharing this but I have always read similar posts and found people to be inspirational. The soon to be Mrs King just read this post so she knows about this thread.
Thanks all.Posted 11 months agojefflSubscriber
That’s certainly a shitty stick! Not been there myself but have known people who have been. I know it’s really difficult, nigh on impossible, but your mind may well race away with worse case scenarios. I can only suggest you try and take each day at a time. You don’t know the outcome of the appointment on Monday so I’d say see what comes out of that and take it from there.
Oh and go kick cancer in the slats!Posted 11 months agoigmSubscriber
Nothing much to add except this. And it’s probably horribly practical.Posted 11 months ago
Video everything. Photograph everything. You and your daughter playing, you and your wife going for walks, you talking about your thoughts about your daughter’s future, your hopes and advice for her.
With any luck you get to watch them together, but just in case, it might mean a lot in 10-20 years.
And chose a format / storage method that will last 29 years.
Apart from that, be lucky, get well.BustaspokeSubscriber
Until you are told it’s not curable, it’s curable. Don’t overthink it and Carpe Diem every day, live life like you stole it and the very best of luck
^^^ This ^^^Posted 11 months ago
If you need to speak to anyone we’re all here for you.
Like everyone else here, I wish you & your family good luck in getting well again soon.boxelderSubscriber
What do I know, but come out swinging and channel your strength and spirit to fighting this. Take all the (professional) advice you can get and use it selectively. Whatever may lie ahead, preparing your loved ones for the fight and whatever the consequences may be should be a focus. We are defined and remembered for our spirit and cancer can’t touch that. Rooting for you.Posted 11 months agoWooksterSubscriber
Oh mate. Get Monday done, and see what they say then, once the Dr.s know exactly what’s what they can’t be certain what the plan of attack is.
You’re in a terrificly crappy position this weekend with this weighing on you and your little family. I’m really thinking of you and yours buddy, really really am.Posted 11 months agojuankingSubscriber
Thanks all. Just been playing with my daughter this afternoon and playing some games which is a much needed distraction. Had my dear old mum on the phone earlier (who has just been discharged from her cancer unit) telling me the Welsh posse are heading up to Aberdeen en masse tomorrow to come and see me and will all be staying a while which is great news.
I’m finding saying it out loud the hardest thing.
Thanks for the responses I really do find them of great comfort.
Cheers all.Posted 11 months agojj55Subscriber
Shattering news, it’ll take some time to sink in. You are at the bottom of the biggest climb you’ve ever tackled, looking up is daunting but just like those climbs you thought impossible but conquered on past rides you will put your head down and using your Granny ring you’ll climb to the top and one day find yourself looking back down the hill and thinking that despite the doubts you had at the start you did it!Posted 11 months agometalheartSubscriber
Firstly, you have no need to apologise, there are plenty of people on here who have been directly or indirectly touched by cancer. There are quite a few survivors on here. You become another one. #fuckcancer
As above, you are not alone.
All the best, fight the fight and be strong.Posted 11 months agoPierreMember
I’m really sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine what it’s like, but I wish you courage and strength.
…and communication. Don’t be afraid to pour it all out to Mrs.King-to-be. Fear is primal and can be overwhelming, and it’s only by confronting those fears and expressing them that we can start dealing with them and seeing what’s rational and what’s not and where we can find hope and what we can do about it, and that’s definitely best done together.
Good luck man. Medicine is amazing and can fix a lot of things.Posted 11 months agocrewlieSubscriber
Horrible news to get. I remember well a weekend like that. Anyway there’s a good club on here of fighters and survivors and we need more members, so get to it!Posted 11 months ago
Oh and I’d echo what was said above about photos and video, I vetoed any record and regret it now…it’s an important part of your life.
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