So I've fell out with my parents!
Ouch. Not much useful advice. But when Dad’s being a pain I tell him off and then buy him a pint. It’s usually my round.
Other times it’s usually my fault for being a cocky know-it-all and once Ive realised that I shut up and apologise.
Case in point:
dad’s right, it’s manege and not menage.Posted 4 years ago
Sorry dad 😳
So how does this sit?Posted 4 years ago
Not a word, not a text, not a card, not a **** squeak to wish my wife a happy 40 th birthday two weeks ago yesterday. And still nothing now! Mother had got the hump cos the grand kids didn’t speak to dad two weeks prior on his birthday. However we rang three times but to no avail!StonerSubscriber
I cant even remember my kids birthdays. I’m not sure that constitutes grounds for excommunication. Unless you’ve got the hump by proxy from your missus?
wife is gutted and now refuses to discuss “them”
Ah. You’re pissed with your folks in solidarity with your wife then. That way lies ruin.Posted 4 years ago
Well no, not really stoner. I just couldn’t believe on her 40th they did nothing, nadda, zilch! We were at a festival at the time so I txt to say any chance of giving the wife a call etc. Again no reply!Posted 4 years ago
Rock and hard place, but sides aren’t really an option! I know the problem is my mother but I always thought my dad was better than that. That’s what cuts the most I reckon!
It wasn’t a forgotten birthday, that was clear. I even invited the olds round for a drink on the eve of her birthday. Dad was picking the kids up from gym for us so we could load up the car for the festival, mother decided not to come. Can’t see how anyone would jeopardise seeing their grand kids to be honest.Posted 4 years ago
I daren’t ring the old dear because I know I’ll lose my rag!
It’s a **** nightmare to be honest!Matt24kSubscriber
You need to take a step away from the “problem” because it either isn’t the real issue or you are all acting like spoilt brats.Posted 4 years ago
Most women I know would absolutely hate to be reminded that they have reached 40, especially by their MIL.
Take the time to go and visit your Mum, just the 2 of you and find out what is really going on.toys19Member
I knw this sounds trite, even religious, but I would say:
treat others as you would be treated.
Thus, be nice, ignore their failings and do not give a damn if they try to piss you off.
Once you accept that the only way to happiness is total forgiveness then you will realise how lame you were being. I forgive you for that.Posted 4 years agoglobaltiMember
You’ve fallen out.
My wife HATES my mum so they seldom speak. This is not uncommon in mother/daughter in law relationships. I refuse to allow my wife’s irrational hatred spoil my own relationship so I keep talking despite my Mum being quite irritating. My reason for this? Parents love their children and have given up most of their lives for us; it’s not their fault that they are different, they were brought up in a different era when ways and manners were different. It’s wrong to fall out with them for that, they deserve support as their world slowly crumbles around them, they get unwell and their friends die. How do you think you will feel when that starts happening to you and your children are ignoring you?
Carry on.Posted 4 years agosprootletMember
My Dad forgot my 40th then, when I rang him for the weekly chat, he told me not to forget my nephew’s birthday at the end of the month. That hurt and since then he’s forgotten it again and yet when asked can spout of all the birthdays of my brother’s family…..Posted 4 years ago
Anyway, I just ignore that thoughtlessness of him now, he’s the only Dad I’ve got and one day he won’t be there. I say build the bridges, parents can sometimes behave as children then we have to be the adults about things.MoseyMTBMember
It’s a birthday for ffs! If my mum got mad every time I forgot hers she’d never speak to me again.
I can’t think of anything worse than losing my parents, they are everything to me. Get round there or call them. Life is way too short and when they are gone you’ll regret the time you missed.
Oh and I couldn’t care less if people forget my birthday. Why we celebrate being born and not our parents for having us has always baffled me. It’s my parents who did the hard work.Posted 4 years agop8ddyMember
It’s really easy to get into an entrenched position. And I get why you’re annoyed – it’s thoughtless and rude. However, as a cautionary tale –
My father keeled over and died utterly unexpectedly aged 51. The last words out of his face to me were “I’m really proud of you”… I was a bit sarcastic and flippant back. As things go it’s not a bad last ever conversation, but tbh, I’ve sorely regretted not having responded in kind since. That’s something I’ll never be able to fix.
My point is, that as others have said, life is way to short for petty grievances to get in the way. Is the current argument worth, potentially, a lifetime of regret?Posted 4 years ago
The topic ‘So I've fell out with my parents!’ is closed to new replies.